The Love Doctor Is In... Court
from the are-lies-criminal? dept
It seems that most people realize by now that the "descriptions" most online dating users put in to describe themselves are often full of... well, let's just say little white lies. The actual degree of the lies may be up for debate, but when people want to put their best foot forward, they may massage the facts a bit in their favor. However, is that illegal? A Manhattan doctor (a fertility specialist, of all things) is now being sued by two women he met through an online dating site for lying in his profile about his marital status (as you might have guessed, he said he was single and he was not). The women also claim he "broke their hearts," which I'm pretty sure isn't a crime yet. Of course, he also fed each of them the line that they "were married in a previous life," that he had mistreated each of them and that he had "searched for her in this lifetime to correct his past mistakes." Apparently, they fell for that line, so it's not really surprising they believed he was single as well. Of course, they don't seem to be suing about the whole past lives/reincarnation marriage lie either. The guy, clearly, is a jerk for doing this, but is it illegal?
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My ex's profile on match.com should win the pulitz
According to his profile, he liked to go out to nice romantic dinners, and was looking for a girl who like to go out just as much as she liked to stay in. A dog lover who is looking for another dog lover to spend some nice quality time with. But I guess if you consider getting drunk every night quality time, then sure. It was funny the way all the things he said he liked to do were things that I liked to do, and wanted to do with him.
I just feel bad for the dumb girl who comes after the dumb one writing this (who, by the way, wised up, and now has a man who treats her like she deserves), who didn't get one "romantic dinner out" with him in the almost three years (off and on) we were together. But then again "commitment phobic, non-confrontational sissy with an alcohol problem who lives off of his parent's dollar with no real job or careeer goal" probably doesn't sell as well as "self employed dog-rescue owner/lover" does. I feel no need to sue him, since I take pleasure in knowing that in this world, what comes around goes around, and he'll get his. I just feel sorry for the dumb girl who answered his little short story submission.... maybe she can sue him for misrepresentation. Too bad he doesn't have anything to lose, since he has never had to earn anything himself...
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
You never said how I had to put up with your weight due to you childhood issues.
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This might even be rape
"The defining attribute of rape in humans is the lack of informed consent "(Wikipedia). "Rape, in law, the crime of sexual intercourse without the consent of the victim ... One important reform, which has been in effect in most states in recent years, has been the removal of statutes requiring that rape victims physically resist the attack."Answers.com.
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Re: This might even be rape
Of course, if you want to go the rape route, go that way, but that's criminal court, and you likely won't see any money from him for that, will you?
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
First, your side of the argument certainly sounds like you got a raw deal, but it has been my experience that (a) there are two sides to these things, and (b) marriages that end do not end well (the point is that we have all heard the bitching ex-spouse stories ad nauseum).
Another point to consider: why do divorced women, in the majority of cases, mention money, money, money as a major cause of marital failure? He lives off his parents dollar? So he had an income? I don't recall having ever heard a woman (in my personal experience) explain their reason for divorce without hubby's money/motivation as a key ingredient. Why didn't YOU as a modern woman and loving spouse go get the good career and provide him the time, space, and emotional/professional support he needed to heal from whatever psychological ills he seemed to have?
Most men I speak with agree on this: women see us as disposable and easily replaceable. Many, many women will simply toss us away rather than see us through a difficult healing and growth issue, and if our priorities in life are not materialistic, a great many of you will jump ship with no regrets. I have personally seen this many times and firmly believe it to be true.
Sorry, but I guess I needed to say it.
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
Personally I've never given a damn about money, and so I've seen the result - so many women see me as some kind of lower life form. Doesn't bother me though, That's life and we all make our choices.
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
After reading Nicole's post, I see that her ex is a guy who loves animals, maybe drinks too much (maybe not, we only have her opinion to go by), and maybe doesn't place his priorities in the world of collecting things but rather in the care of abandoned or neglected living beings.
I kind of think this guy is gonna be ok, in the long run. I like him already. And if he gets that "what goes around comes around" karma thing I hope it reflects the fact that he has love in his soul for animals, a trait I hold in high regard.
I think I'm a bit like you: my only use for money is to further the ability to do the things that are important to my wife and I, like donating to disaster relief and...oh yeah, we have five rescued dogs right at the present time, and my wife is the primary breadwinner while I go back to finish my degree. And I drink too much beer, but she still loves me anyway. I got really lucky the 2nd time around.
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Wronged
Every one's lawsuit happy anyway, because this world is bowing down to the rotters which ruin all good things.
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Re: This might even be rape
Darn, so I can't lie about my penis size anymore and then keep it out of eye sight during sex... or its rape?
Seriously, IANAL either, but I believe informed consent doesn't mean that the other person knows the entire life history. I think it means that you know what you are agreeing too. So, for instance, un-informed consent would be (childish, but I've not slept yet):
Man: Say yes to whatever question I ask next.
Woman: Why?
Man: Just do it, it'll be fun.
Woman: Ok, yes to whatever your next question is.
Man: Wanna have sex? *Jumps on woman*
Yeah, childish, but it could be relevant should any "code word" or street lingo be used in place of the word "sex". For instance, if someone asks if they can polish your pipes, they may not know what you really mean.
Thus, it is not informed consent. Again, IANAL, but that does seem the most likely explination of the meaning of informed as is used here.
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No Subject Given
The argument here isn't whether what he did was illegal (It clearly isn't; plenty of married men have tried to pursued "outside interests" throughout the ages. This isn't much different.)
The question is whether they have any grounds upon which to collect from this guy. They are seeking compensation for emotional distress, giving them SOME kind of legal basis for a lawsuit.
Leave it to the court to decide just how distressed the affair made them.
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Re: My ex's profile on match.com should win the pu
I actually have a little insight on this. Two of my friends are in a band together. One is an orthodontist, the other an office drone. Both consider music their true passion and the jobs as just a way to get by in the world. They both placed ads on Match and with the exception of their career choices, their profiles both cover about the same territory as far as preferences and interests. Both put up pics, though neither of them are exceptional looking.
The doc, not only got an overwhelmingly positive response to all the women he he wrote and was also inundated by solitications from women match seekers. The other guy, well he got lukewarm replies to women he wrote to and only a couple of unsolicted emails.
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