How Not To Respond To MySpace Stupidity
from the overreaction-central dept
It's no secret that many schools are struggling with the question of how to deal with MySpace. A lot of parents have been freaking out, and that's crossed over into schools -- many of which have tried to ban the use of MySpace, teaching kids a great lesson in how to overreact and try to bury or ignore issues, rather than learning to deal with them. The latest story, though, shows just how ridiculous the overreaction can get. A student who clearly has some other issues to deal with posted a MySpace group designed specifically around his hatred for a particular girl. It was definitely over-the-top, and the student was suspended and the school is trying to expel him. However, the school also suspended 20 students who just looked at the page. Not only were these students suspended for actions done completely outside of school, it seems somewhat silly to suspend students just for looking at a website (especially as many had no idea what they were looking at until they got there). What kind of lesson is this teaching kids?
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Heh..
Anyways, on with what I was going to say. You know.. I could expect that out of my school. The parents of todays kids except for a few seem to do nothing but blame. Okay, if the kids homicidal, get him help, don't yell at the site that let him express his feelings. I would hate to be one of the 20.. Just get a random link, from the blue, and you just click.. I know everyone has that.. Impulse to just click a link when seen. Hrrm.. Guess they're way off track in the west coast as they are here.. Kind of funny how the Parents now blame more than the kid..
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WRONGO BUDDY. That kind of stuff is extreemly hurtful and can scar someone for life. Emotional abuse is just as harmful as physical.
Go get your first job and try calling someone a name or making a MySpace about a co-workers "gayness" and see how fast you get canned.
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Double Standard
In one hand, schools would rather teach kids not to abstain from sex, but rather, how to do it "safely" using condoms, etc.
In the other hand, they want to outright ban MySpace - have kids "abstain" from using it.
Kids will get on MySpace weather schools allow it or not. Shouldn't they be taught how to do it "safely"?
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If the kids were at home doing this, you might as well call the school when your kid doesn't pick up their room. Besides, if the "injured" student has a complaint, their parents can sue.
I think all of this is stupid, sure, but it will be a cold day in hell when the principal of a school dictates what goes on under my roof.
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Gasp!
And on top of all this, they're gonna charge a middle school kid with hate crime BS just because he wants to blow some chicks face off? WHO DOESN'T WANT TO DO THAT? I can't tell you how many times my girlfriends or just women in general have irritated the crap out of me, and I bet just about every guy here has felt the same at some time or another.
Dear government, if you read this and find that I have said something out of line, sue me, effing liberal stuck-up jackasses.
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This is yet another case of us wanting our government and our schools to raise our children for us. Parents, take some god damn responsibility for your kids. I have 2 of my own so I speak from experience.
The metality that these kids deserve a suspension from school because they practiced their civil liberties from the privacy of their own homes is the same metality that says it is OK for Bush to wiretap our homes without a court order... And the same metality that got the piece of crap Patriot Act through the senate yesterday.
Do yourselves a favor, read our Constitution, figure out what the framers intended. Freedom is not something to take lightly. Our forefathers fought and died for the rights that these kids were excercising. Allowing these suspensions is like pissing all over the graves of the people who guaranteed us the freedoms that are slowly being taken away from us.
This is our country and we need to get control of it again. It depresses the hell out of me to hear about more and more violations of our liberties every day, and then to see people saying "oh, that's ok... Someone's feelings were hurt so the response MUST have been appropriate. Our government would NEVER lie to us..." Wake up people.
Take a lesson from Iraq, which in the last few months had a HUGE turnout for an election. An election that they ran the risk of being killed for going to... But they still went out and excercised their new found rights! We can't get 50% of our registered voters to the polls with no fear of violence... LET'S GET OUR COUNTRY AND OUR RIGHTS BACK!!!!
If you disagree with any of the opinions in this post, good for you, if any of the opinions hurt your feelings, well, so be it.
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I hate it as much as anyone but what can you do when people are going to bleat like sheep when these things happen? It doesn't affect them so they don't care. It's going to take organized resistance to this kind of crap before we start seeing less of it. Welcome to the PC age. Oh and I can't say that I agree on the political points but at least it shows that it doesn't matter what political stripes you wear to be fed up with this kind of stuff.
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This is intrusive of family privacy and should not be tolerated by the parents, paying good money to send their child to this school.
The first two students were suspended (for two weeks) this week.
Two girls not only were still using their "evil" MySpace account, they had PORN displayed on the site as well.
I'm sure they deserved to be suspended for two weeks for sharing the details of their recent paintball adventures, including a pic of one of the girls in a bikini with her paintball gun (not a revealing pic) with a Victoria's Secret ad that happened to be on the page.
One parent is hiring a lawyer to appeal the schools' decision.
Keep posting the MySpace BS & I'll try to update on the case.
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Umm...I think you have a problem, dude. Seriously, get help. Reading your post scares the hell out of me.
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These kids had to have posted something to this offensive MySpace group to identify themselves. And if their posts were also derogatory and/or dangerous, they should be expelled as well. And creating a harmful environment for a fellow student is a punishable action even if that happens off school property.
Everyone is pointint fingers at lazy parents when they are being just as lazy themselves.
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Liberals would probably support the threats saying its a freedom of speech, when a freedom of speech should never EVER threaten anyone's safety. I think you got your political parties mixed up pal.
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What about freedom of expression andd speech? Just because you dont like what someone says doesn't mean they dont have the right to say it. UNLESS he came right out and threatened her, it is wrong to do anything to him. I am not saying he is right, but he does have the same freedoms as the rest of us.
As for the 20 others, they viewed the site from home... right? Well then school has no right to say ANYTHING. Whats next, getting expelled for shoplifting?
The only ones the blame should fall on are the parents. I love how parents these days blame everything but the way they raise their kids. My parents taught me the difference between right and wrong and punished me when I did something wrong and rewarded me when I was good. Obviously I would rather be rewarded than punished, so I was good. After a while the morals become almost instinct, and you think before doing something "bad".
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I don't have any evidence that these kids didn't post anything hateful, but I am giving them the benifit of the doubt.
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Ok if they commited assault (a crime) then they should be arrested or get a restraining order. It should be decided in a court of LAW not by a school. It took place off school grounds. If he threatened her in the school then suspend/expell him. Otherwise it is a matter for the courts.
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the solution
No TV, no cell phone, no computer, no internet.
The world would be a better place.
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" 'theres one kid in my grade who made a myspace dedicated to proving another kid gay. its all fun and games'
WRONGO BUDDY. That kind of stuff is extreemly hurtful and can scar someone for life. Emotional abuse is just as harmful as physical.
Go get your first job and try calling someone a name or making a MySpace about a co-workers "gayness" and see how fast you get canned." -Mike
I'm an educated, intelligent individual. I respect people's rights, and I'm tolerant of different lifestyles. While I personally have nothing against homosexuals, I respect the right to make fun of their "gayness". I may think someone ignorant for doing so, but people need to get some fucking backbone and stand up for themselves. We're spoiled and weak, and catering to everyone's emotional frailty is just facilitating it.
You want people to stop calling you a fag so you can stop crying yourself to sleep at night? Grow some metaphorical balls and prove to them that you're not their bitch. The sack might even help you make something of yourself professionally.
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MySpace Teaches Kids to Lie...and You Think That's
(A colateral effect of luring young users is that they don't know how to effectively use the "technology in question." Much like cigarettes, alcohol, sex, driving, etc.)
MySpace is FILLED TO THE BRIM with hundreds of thousands of user profiles which clearly and openly state that the user is in the Xth grade (say 6th, 7th or 8th; thus making the user 11 to 13 years old). Or that reveal the user's true age--not the one they posted in their sign-up. Heck a filter for 99-year-olds would probably expose half a million accounts...
The Terms of Service clearly state: "You further represent and warrant that you are 14 years of age or older..."
Why won't MySpace simply police their site to delete any acount that clearly indicates on its face that it is non-conforming to the terms? A few simple search filters could flag suspect accounts for review.
Who knows, it might actually help teach the kids to be more careful about what they post. Instead, all they taught my 13-year-old daughter was that it was cool to lie (and that they didn't mind if she did--so her parents must be really lame to object).
If I had more disposable income, I would sue MySpace for child enticement or something...they are some sick folk who think anything is okay that makes them money.
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In other news parents just don't understand.
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It is a private school. They should be allowed to make any rule they want. The parents should be able to get their money back though becasue I would imagine that this constitutes changing the contract that the parents agreed to to begin with.
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Offended? Good for you!
This somewhat goes along with the "second-hand smoke" topic. Sure, I don't like it when I'm in a restaurant that reeks of smoke. But it's a private establishment. If it bothers me so much, I politely mention to my waiter that it's too much for me, and I'm going to leave. I don't sue them, and I don't contact my state's representative and try to pass legislation banning it.
It's our unalienable right to be offended. Be pissed off! It's good for you! But just because you don't like something (like MySpace), that does not give you the right to prevent others from enjoying it.
I understand that schools and restaurants are different, that one is a public facility and the other is private. But the principle stays the same. You're a school: take some responsibility and teach your kids. Certain parts of history might have offensive content, but we don't just exclude it from our history. We teach the kids that it's wrong.
Teach your kids that talking about blowing someone's brains out is wrong. If they say it in your class, then punish them. Don't sew their lips shut and take away their ability to say it.
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Say there is a private establishment that allows smoking. Fine.
But what do you do when that place decides it can make more money if it lets kids come in and smoke? What do you do when they start encouraging (luring) kids in TO smoke? Hey, it's a private establishment, maybe they even leave packs of cigarettes laying around (they don't "sell" them, they just lay them around and assume no responsibility for who picks them up).
What has fundamentally changed is that perverse business interests are gaining greater and greater DIRECT access to children--and they are luring them into behaviors that may not be good for them long term.
Surprisingly, most people with children get upset with that. Most people without children, however, (or who actually hate children) like it. Either because they don't understand the issue viscerally...or because they only see the issue in how it affects them.
In this case, schools are (awkwardly) trying to stand in for parents. Hopefully, after a company or two go too far, there will be a couple of high profile trials, and we can get this back on track...
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the site should be checked, if there is a viable threat to the girl, then they should be punished by the police. the school has no involvement in this matter.
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Let's face it: kids are NOT adults. Teenagers are NOT adults. Why do so many of these discussions IGNORE this critical distinction?
Should kids have unsupervised access to the Internet? No.
Should kids have unsupervised ability to create/post content on the Internet? No.
Do you think that a TV crew should have the right to set up a shoot in a local teen hangout; and then conduct a wide ranging, raucous discussion about sexual techniques among teens? One in which they surrepticiously (can't spell) encourage teen audience members to join in, actually enticing them to reveal personal information and potentially embarrassing personal information?
And then the TV show airs on MTV (or even better, pay-per-view). And throughout all of this, no one communicated with the parents. No one got a signed release or other permission, etc.
Guess what. That is exactly what MySpace does. Only they use servers and computers, instead of cameras and TVs. It is the same thing.
Except, MTV would be breaking the law. (Oh wait, technically, I think MySpace is probably breaking the law too. Of course, that's the whole purpose of the "friend" ruse: If the kid thinks they are controlling access to their info; MySpace plans to argue that they aren't "broadcasting" it. But, they are.)
And that is why it will take a few lawsuits (which MySpace will clearly lose in the end) for all this to straighten out.
But they are doing EVIL everyday until they are stopped.
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The 14 year old & older restriction is simply to avoid COPPA headaches.
Whoever it was that mentioned using a Proxy (or just simply lie) hit it right on the head. To go into it further, I could be a student and register with another student's information (hell, even post pictures of HIM saying it's me) and by the swift actions of the respective schools, THAT child will be suspended. Clever.
A school can't obtain access to server logs from MySpace (and I highly doubt MySpace would give up that information based on a simple want). They base the user's identity by what's in their posts/profiles/etc. I'm sorry, but other than a student openly admitting (or friends snitching), there's NO way to POSITIVELY identify a student with a user profile in MySpace with the above sources (IF it's accessed from home/other than the school network).
If schools don't want their students accessing MySpace, they can simply have their servers block it (which I'm sure they have, unless their intent is to catch & punish students).
Threats made on MySpace is a completely different ball of wax. If threats against my child were made then you could bet I would have my lawyer all over MySpace as well as the ISP of the source IP.
For those barking freedom of speech, yes and no (mostly no). What you're failing to realize is there's a difference between freedom of speech and slander...I'll let you guess which one teens are doing ;)
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but how I'm reading this it's pretty clear that legally there's no grounds for him being suspended. In fact, it sounds like it's directly prohibited since it took place off-campus. Also, it wasn't a direct threat, I don't think, but a question posed to the other people participating, so I'm not sure that would fall under (a) in the first place technically.
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Shouldn't the parents be questioning themselves on how this happened at home? I'd be willing to bet none of them knew about this until the suspensions were issued.
And yes, I realize that being a parent doesn't mean you know how to be a good one, but, c'mon you know the difference between right and wrong. So should your kids. It's really easy to convey.I grew up with an absent father and a working mother so that excuse is out. However, I knew that if I did something wrong, there would be a backhand across some part of my body that I didn't want...how many did I get? Two...one to find out and two to test it to see if it would happen again. I never had to try again after that.
I shudder to think what the punishment for a posting such as this AND a suspension from school would have gotten me. So, that very real promise of punishment has kept me from doing wrong well into adulthood.
To the person who accepted the invitation to a page without ever seeing it-Accepting the invite and actually going to the page and signing your name to a list of people who want to shoot someone are two very different things. They're guilty. Not by assocation but by action.
To the person posting that they "are tolerant" of other lifestyles, that is utter crap. Because if you were you wouldn't be making fun of them. And while you may think it's all fun and games, there's someone out there who doesn't. By posting in a public place that person is made available to harassment by anyone who isn't as "tolerant" as you. So, yeah that's accessory to assault, I would think.
Lastly, to the people screaming about their civil liberties being trampled upon...If it was your kid they were wanting to shoot, what then?
At least the school did SOMETHING to punish these kids although it's doubtful they learned anything from it.
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Try to imagine how you would "overreact" if that had been your picture.
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You should realize that it does matter, private schools in general do not come under than same rules, regulations, and government intervention that public schools do.
This is Most Especially true in the case of a "religiously based" school as you put it does mean a lot as these schools operate completely outside of government intervention. Thus, they can make the rules, which public schools cannot.
A few examples would be requiring the proper respectful response to ones teacher, such as, "Yes Sir", "No Sir" etc. Is this a crime against free speech or an attempt to teach a young student respect while living in a world, which becomes a more "amoral" society with each passing day?
Further, before you are allowed to enroll your child in any "faith based" school (that I know of, and my children have attended several, and never a "public" or "secular" system school), you are required during an interview with the headmaster of the school (which is in most cases and extended ministry of the church) to sign a Statement of Faith. In this statement it list all of the schools policy's that are most likely to be at issue and clearly explains the schools approach and what will be expected of the child, and of the parents both at home and at school. So in short, a parent knows the rules and requirements if they choose to send their kids to a faith based private school system which in point of fact, more and more parents are doing so every year.
I can also tell you from many years of experience with my own two daughters, one who is twelve and is finishing her first year in high school in about a month (after skipping the 2nd and 8th grades), and my first born who is twenty-five and finished college two years ago on an academic scholarship after graduating from a Christian school. My point you may ask.
My point is that the positive effects that this "faith based" education had and continues to have on my girls goes so deep that it would be difficult to explain in simplistic terms and even more so to a person not so "faith based" in their thinking or outlook. At first glance, it may seem as if I am referring above to "effects" that are in fact, only faith based, this is not the case at all, if so it would apply to the few and not the many.
I am speaking of things like; respect for your fellow human beings, tolerance, respect,and
confidence tempered with humility and many other like qualities, all of which would generally be agreed upon by most parents and intelligent persons to be highly desirable traits to have instilled into their children.
However, in case I did not make it clear above (this is a small space to type in) none of the positives of a faith based education I refer to are accomplished by simply sending your child to this type of school, the parents must always be the primary key holders in the development and education of their children. Thus the need for like-minded thinking and agreement between these types of schools and the parents. These schools generally refer to this as a partnership of sorts, and if you do not agree, you simply enroll your child somewhere else.
However, it should be noted that ANY private school of ANY type would require you to sign a waiver disallowing you to sue them on grounds relating to their school policy. This is simply more true and also more powerful in the case of the "faith based" school due to the very limited ability of the state or federal governments (and by logical extension the courts) right to intervene in how these schools are run as long as the educational standards meet the minimum set by the state.
Therefore, the people you refer to above who want to "sue" this faith-based school based on a "policy" decision will only succeed in lowering their bank balance while increasing the attorney's balance.
Additionally, and finally, it is almost a certainty that the individuals you mention will not be allowed to re-enter the school system you refer to. This is without a doubt the case if it truly is a "religiously based”, church affiliated school which is what your message implies, and almost a certainty with any private school, as attendance at such a school is a paid for privilege, not a government granted entitlement.
Sincerely,
A Concerned and involved father..
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It seems to me that many people posting here are doing so based on an assumption that "children" have the same "rights" as do responsible adults. Just as in the case where a serious crime is committed by a "child" they are not held to the legal standard as an adult. Therefore a child in school does not enjoy, nor are they entitled to the same "protections" and "rights" as the adult (at least in age) student in college.
Not only did this school have the "right" to take whatever action it deemed appropriate, it had a mandated (by most sane parents) responsibility to take action, and in this case the only logical way to make certain of catching the right "fish" was to cast a wide net. Certainly, given the facts, some were more guilty than others perhaps, but it is just as certain than none were completely innocent either. They all knew they were not in the "right" as measured by any societal standard.
A Concerned and involved father..
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Wow, up until that last part of your post, you made a frighteningly truthful (albeit colorful) observation. In a nutshell, if you are saying "America is not what it used to be" you are so unfortunately correct in your observation.
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If you hate MySpace, good for you.
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Sir, you are in need of a reality check, please make an appointment now.
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After that incident I prayed for her death. I wrote "Death to Jennifer" (and much much worse) on scrap paper AT HOME while doing homework. I day dreamed about taking a gun to school and shooting her in the head. I told all my friends why I hated her and wanted her dead and they agreed with me. I had heard that mixing certain household cleaning products could create a deadly result. I wrote in my journal that I wanted to put those chemicals in her locker. I had NO intention of actually doing those things but I never stated that in my private journal. Are you saying that if you found my journal and read it, I should be punished?? Was it my mom's fault for not supervising me when I was holding a pen?
All those things were privately written or kept within my circle of friends. This was back in the days before the internet. What we did have was pen and paper. If I had made a sign saying I wanted to kill my classmate and then taped it to a wall in a publically viewed area, I think I'd probably get in trouble. I understood that then, that's why I never did it. Do kids not understand that a public post on the internet is the same?
Blog sites like Myspace have been around for years. I've come across blogs written by teens who've expressed hatred for kids in school before. The only difference being that it wasn't part of a wildly popular website that "everyone" was member of. Posting and blogs used to be somewhat more anonymous. Maybe it's just that people, especially kids, used to have more self control for fear of being punished for their actions. They're seeing how far they can go with the internet and I'm not surprised.
No one was prepared for this problem. The courts, parents and the schools should work together in dealing with this situation. We encourage kids to tell a trusted adult, sometimes a teacher or guidance counseler, when there's abuse in the home. Should teachers now ignore the problem since it's not happening on school grounds? It's acceptable for the school to get involved if a student is feeling unsafe in any environment. Though their involvement should be somewhat limited when the "crime" is committed off school property. The internet is not school property. Punish the kids if they use the school computers for this stuff. Let the parents punish them at home. The courts can take over where parents leave off.
You can't always blame the parents either. If I were a teen and I wanted a Myspace account there would be no way for my mom to stop me! Just like there was no way for her to keep me from trying cigarettes, alcohol or sex. A kid without a computer can always use one that belongs to a friend. Public internet cafes are everywhere.
It seems that the blame may have to fall on the website itself. There are ways to try to keep underage users off certain websites. Having to enter credit card info for proof of age is one. Kids will still find ways around that. It really seems like there is no solution other than to have 24hr monitoring of all Myspace accounts that seem to belong to someone underage. Only Myspace itself can do that. If that doesn't work then I guess we have to start cutting fingers off kids.
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Are you saying that if you found my journal and read it, I should be punished?? Was it my mom's fault for not supervising me when I was holding a pen?
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Nice post, and good questions proposed for analogy.
I only wish I had the time tonight to reply in detail to your post. I think that you have brought up some very valid points, and also ones which have the possibility of taking this discussion to the next level.
I hope the interest is there.
I will reply at length tomorrow if anyone is interested.
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Re: Heh..by OSB at 2006-03-10 04:23:29
Are you saying that if you found my journal and read it, I should be punished?? Was it my mom's fault for not supervising me when I was holding a pen?
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Nice post, and good questions proposed for analogy.
I only wish I had the time tonight to reply in detail to your post. I think that you have brought up some very valid points, and also ones which have the possibility of taking this discussion to the next level.
I hope the interest is there.
I will reply at length tomorrow if anyone is interested.
TMS
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Re: Re: Offended? Good for you! AMEN!
You have hit the target in many areas of your post and I enjoyed reading it.
Thank you for your time,
TMS
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Re: Re: Heh..by OSB at 2006-03-10 04:23:29
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and if you don't start monitoring yourselves and questioning the abuses that myspace can encourage YOU will become one of us very soon.
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You are absolutely correct as any remotely experienced or caring parent well knows. However-
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Remember internet use is a privilege, not a god given right, and if you all don't start making changes soon, those of us who vote and pay taxes and pay for the access will lobby whoever we have to shut it down. Also remember.. just because you can ( freedom of speech etc) doesn't mean you should. Use your heads.
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This will never happen, nor should it. There is far more good to be gained from the technology that is the "web". I give this opinion as one who is the father of two daughters.
I have also used the internet before it was the "net" or the "web". At this time it served a very limited function, now it is providing learning and experiences to people around the world and in severely oppressed counties (think China). Further my children use it daily in furthering their educational reach while one is attending a "virtual" high school.
Unfortunately, the internet now is as a world unto itself, with a life of it's own, and it is far to late to put the genie back into the bottle. It is true that there is a great deal of all types of evil and evil people exist on the internet, and on a global scale, just as they do in the world at large. Evil will always exist, the sooner one comes to terms with this the more prepared and informed a parent or person/child to deal with it and the world. But it must be taught on your terms (the parent or guardian), not the worlds.
However, realistically, the percentage of bad vs. good on the internet is simply becoming closer and closer to reflecting the world which spawned it into existence.
My youngest daughter (13 yrs. old) has had her own computer and access since she was about 4 years old. I have always taught her about the realities of the world online as well as off. I admit that I use a hardware firewall around our house and every site which is visited is logged and sent to my unit nightly, and I have never had cause to use any kind of filtering software, or channel blocks etc. on her television or control the music she listens to.
What have I done? Firstly, I have always sent her to a private Christian school. Further, I personally, have taken her to church every week, she has no memory of church not being a part of her life. This builds a strong moral foundation and understanding of right/wrong and good/evil. I would like to go on a tell you what great human beings they are. However, this would be outside the thread. However, to Sandy I must say, the reality is your going to need some help, and the very best help of the highest order is Divine in His nature. I am not saying any of this because I am a religious fanatic of any sort, in fact,
quite the opposite., I am a struggling Christian. Father. In short what I am saying is that if you want your children to grown up to be well adjusted adults contributing to society in meaningful way. Then you as the Parent, must step up to the plate and try (through you will always be short) to be the kind of human being you would like your children to be. Make yourself their role models, it is a tough job, but if you are a parent, it is your job.
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This post is solely my own opinion and is not meant to offend anyone or their beliefs in any way. Rather this is simply a short statement of one fathers experience and the solutions that was provided to him.
Thank you,
TMS
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What are these people talking about and in what la
Add something to the discussion and exchange of ideas by all means, but please do in at least reasonably good English. The reference to obscene words and phrases is hardly subtle either.
Maybe they are lost on the way to MySpaces, where they can most likely be understood. The only other explanation is it is a poor attempt at a tasteless joke.
TMS
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i think myspace is a waste of time
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i think myspace is a waste of time
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myspace explusions
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To the points raised in the original post, if such virtual threats were practiced against my son by peers at his school, as a parent i would involve the law and the school.
To the points about education authorities having the right to suspend/expell kids for affiliating themseleves with a peer's ignorant and angry misuse of the internet to target a particular peer; well i think it is wrong for the school to practice that durisdiction outwith school activities...
What the kid has done by posting these things on myspace is a form of BULLYING and should be dealt with appropriately... Which leads me to think that the school is taking this action because it is probably within an itiniry of targetting the particular pupil..
Alot of people who have posted replies to this thread have obviously not read the original news article. I do think that the school should make every move to protect pupils from bullying and danger within school, and the peers involved were all from school it seems, IT IS APARENTLY BEING DEALT WITH BY THE LAW, and the education authority. I too think that parent's should be more aware of what their kids are up to, and also teach them what is right and what is wrong. Often bullying behavious is from kids that are in home situations which are angry or neglected; Kids copy what they see and are taught through the actions of their elders and peers, and those with the most power to teach kids, are the parents themselves..
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That is filtering software. In fact, it's worse than filtereing software, because whenever you attempt to access a "forbidden" site you don't just get an "access denied" page, you have your father yelling at you.
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oh and to answer the topic at hand the kids were at fault all 20 of them, you know what your looking at and they know that they added themselves to the group so have balls and be an American, take responsibility dont be a German like Bush.
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The girl in question had the right to attend school without fearing for her life. The school had the right to remove the offending students. According to a lot of you, they don't have the right because it occurred off campus-- you obviously know nothing of the code of conduct rules that most school districts have parents and their children sign. People in this country need to learn that not everyone gives a damn about what they think or feel and that they should shut up. Too many people labor under the false impression that they can say whatever they like whenever they like with no repercussions. Real life doesn't work that way-- learn some discretion or face up to the consequences of your actions. If you don't like someone, keep it to yourself or your friends, don't post it on the world wide web where everyone has access to it and the whine like a baby if you get in trouble. The internet is public and the repercussions for death threats posted there should be taken just as seriously as if they were screamed in the hall of the school. I am tired of teachers and administrators looking the other way while people are bullied on a daily basis. This school did the right thing. If the parents had raised their children right and taught them empathy, then the need for the school to intervene would never have arisen.
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Bullying is inexcusible. However, having raised three successful children, and educated them in public schools, I feel strongly that with less parental meddling, children will learn to stand on their own, and not depend on their mommies to fight their battles for them. My children were not bullies, and were picked on from time to time. However, their mother and I were always able to encourage them to face and deal with their problems, and we provided them with the intellectual tools to take care of themselves.
My two older children were "mild mannered band nerds", as was I. This is a characterization that is amazingly insulting, given the hyper-sensitivity that you seem to espouse. Just because musicians don't enjoy the blessing of being a "protected class" doesn't they don't deserve random insults. In spite of my being offended, however, I think I can take it, and I won't be filing a suit anytime soon.
While the circumstances were not detailed in the news story, it is certainly possible that this girl antagonized the offending student as well. It has been my experience that girls are often aggressively cruel, and the assumption that it was unprovoked is a stretch.
The recently manufactured "right" not to be offended, or uncomfortable, is one of the more serious problems in our society today. We need to learn to just get over it, handle our own problems, and rely much less on our overburdened legal system to solve all of our problems.
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Bullying is inexcusible. However, having raised three successful children, and educated them in public schools, I feel strongly that with less parental meddling, children will learn to stand on their own, and not depend on their mommies to fight their battles for them. My children were not bullies, and were picked on from time to time. However, their mother and I were always able to encourage them to face and deal with their problems, and we provided them with the intellectual tools to take care of themselves.
My two older children were "mild mannered band nerds", as was I. This is a characterization that is amazingly insulting, given the hyper-sensitivity that you seem to espouse. Just because musicians don't enjoy the blessing of being a "protected class" doesn't mean they deserve random insults. In spite of my being offended, however, I think I can take it, and I won't be filing a suit anytime soon.
While the circumstances were not detailed in the news story, it is certainly possible that this girl antagonized the offending student as well. It has been my experience that girls are often aggressively cruel, and the assumption that it was unprovoked is a stretch.
The recently manufactured "right" not to be offended, or uncomfortable, is one of the more serious problems in our society today. We need to learn to just get over it, handle our own problems, and rely much less on our overburdened legal system to solve all of our problems.
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Its aii.
It's just an illusion to trick young kids into thinking other people on the internet care about them.
When really they don't.
See you all in another life.
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You kids have to READ the constitution, don't let your teachers TELL you what it means.
Hate speech is a phrase constructed by liberal teachers who have no respect for Free Speech. Haven't you ever asked yourself what is actually considered "hate speech". What if I am offended by what you just typed... and I say that it is "hateful".
Who gets to determine what is actually hateful, and what is just a vague threat? I suppose its YOUR SCHOOL PRINCIPAL.
Thank god for the 2nd ammendment... which in case you didn't learn in school.. is the right to keep and bear arms... the right to have a gun....
I am so glad I have a gun, because otherwise your school principal, and maybe even you... would try to come to my house and tell my wife and I that you are going to "stop" our speech because you are offended, or that you think it is "hateful".
This is why liberals don't like the right to bear arms, or the right to free speech... because then liberals (you) can NOT tell US what to say or do.
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myspace is worth keeping:) I like being social how
~ARIEL
CONTACT ME ON MY MYSPACE IF YOU DON'T LIKE WHAT I WROTE!hahaha losers!
WWW.MYSPACE.COM/ARIEL3470
LATER
SUSPEND KIDS AND TAKE IT AWAY FROM ADULTS THEY WILL STILL GO ON THE SITE
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Blocking Myspace
Then there is the greater danger--Predators. Set up your NetNanny or CyberPatrol to block the site. To be extra thorough, cheaper, and easier, just go to stopspace.com and download their tool (just a double-click and every door into Myspace is shut down. After installing stopspace in my classroom, I don't worry about it anymore...take that!
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umm no. . . .
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I can totally fake people out on the web, but so can anyone else. If I wanted to be I could be over 100 people on the internet. And don't say I can't because I can. Still say I can't, I'll do it in spite of you.
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Myspace, and life in general?
"Not only were these students suspended for actions done completely outside of school..."
How is this right? When do we put our foot down and tell the parents to step up and take responsibility? Now, you’re probably thinking that it shouldn’t have anything to do with the parents, because they can’t control every aspect of their child’s life. In response, I say that that statement is very true, however, how can we let a public school oversee what these children are doing at their own homes?
Another idea is that if a child were to go out and join an anti-anything group, the responsibility of helping the child to grow and understand differences falls onto the parents. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying that the parents don’t need help in this. I feel that a school can and should help to influence growth, but not demand it through disciplinary actions. If this child was threatening another person, the school should have kept a closer eye on him. Again, I’m not saying that he should get off free of punishment. If the school knew about this, they could have easily contacted the parents of these 20+ children and collaborated with them on how to deal with the situation.
Lastly, in regards to the argument of predators; I feel that this argument has no right to be brought into this. Predators are everywhere, and I agree that the Internet can help them find their victims. Read over the last sentence… I said the Internet, not Myspace. What about chat-rooms? What about AIM? What about E-Mail? What about Live Journal, and all of those other sites or chat programs where networking is a big deal? Should we block all of these sites? Can we block all of these sites? Schools should realize that there are thousands upon thousands of proxies (sites that “unlock” blocked sites). You can’t block all of these sites; I can quite easily say that it’s impossible, unless you just take away the Internet. The parents and schools should both help to teach the children on how to be safe on the internet, just like they teach the children on how to be safe on the streets. We’ve all heard of “Stranger Danger,” and this can apply itself on the Internet. Teach the children to not talk to people they do not know, and to never reveal any personal information about themselves. Sadly, that’s all we can really do in hopes of protecting the children. Then again, knowledge is power.
In summation, I feel that the responsibility of both teaching, and overseeing, the children should not entirely be the school’s responsibility, nor should it be entirely the parent’s responsibility. While the children are at school, the staff and administration should be doing their best to both protect, and teach the children that attend. While at home, the parents should be overseeing their child, keeping him or her safe, and teaching them about safety. I say this from a high school senior’s point of view. I’m living the life that this argument is over, and because of it you may say that my opinion is biased, and should not be taken into consideration. In response, I say why should anyone else’s opinion’s be taken into consideration then? If I can not justifiably say what I feel, and have people ponder over my ideas and thoughts, why should a parent be able to argue the fact? We easily turn and say that they are the biased ones. We need to get together and solve this problem, and take each other’s ideas into consideration. If we do not work together, no one will be happy, and we will all suffer for it.
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I recently just got in school suspenison for what i wrote on my myspace in my own home. This girl was threating to kick my ass i went to the principle not only 2 times but three and then i wrote something as to why the girl that was threating me was being stupid for doing what she was doing but yes i did call her a bitch 1 word. its not like they can suspend me for sayin bitchin my own home? so y suspend me for something i wrote on my myspace in my own home? idk what to do? and he didnt even suspended the girl that was threating to kick my ass. Iam a senior in highschool im graduating early in 2 months i didnt want to get in a fight and have to lose not graduating and losing my education over some girl i barely knew that didnt like me for no good reason she "just didnt like me" i dont like some people yet i dont go ranting and raving about it to them and then threaten them. doest somebody agree they suspended the wrong person. isnt a threat more worse then writing bitch on myspace. i mean come on if i were to go to the cops i could get this girl for harassment and theatening and if she goes to the cops what are the gonna do about me writing bitch on myspace? its ridiculous i told my mom and she is going to call the school but they say they can suspend me for anything that goes on under my roof if it causes problems in school. wtf? thats not right!! thats like them saying they can punish me at school for everything i do at home. dont u think thats a bit RIDICULOUS?!?!
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Assuming you go to a public school, you can sue the school district and have the suspension removed from your record and maybe even get some damages for mental stress.
It is illegal for a public school to restrict your 1st amendment right of freedom of speech, especially while off campus. Contact The Fire team asap, its free and they'll for sure take your case.
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but myspace can be a real hassle.
many arguments have been started and many "cyberbullies" have emerged from the site.
myspace should have a better program to weed this scum out.
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