The Next Gender Battle: Get That Laptop Out Of Bed
from the gotta-bicker-over-something dept
It used to be a battle over whether or not televisions belonged in the bedroom, but apparently, the bigger question nowadays is whether or not laptops belong there as well. While this article is a bit jokey, it probably touches on a nerve for a lot of couples -- with men wanting to bring their laptops into bed before going to sleep to check email/sports scores/stocks/etc., and women preferring the guys leave the laptops outside the bedroom. At least that's how the article (written by a woman) is positioned -- and it probably resonates with a lot of couples. However, the article does seem to stretch a bit in suggesting that laptop usage in the bedroom is a defense mechanism that's destroying intimacy among couples. Perhaps all it's really saying is that some guys need to find women who like to use their laptops in bed too. For many people, a laptop really is their "media portal" into the world -- whether it's communicating with people, being entertained or keeping up on the news. It's not too surprising that many would prefer to read off the computer screen than pick up a book. Laptop usage, by itself, doesn't seem like such a problem. It certainly could be a symptom of a relationship problem, but hardly the cause or sole indicator of one.
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Peter the Penguin
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My Dell
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Re: My Dell
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Lost intimacy?
I'd think twice about taking a laptop to bed. Imagine how intimacy would be affected if it was a latop with a Sony battery.
I know thats a bad joke but I had to.
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Another Day, Another Article Promoting Gender Ster
Bah, humbug.
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Re: Another Day, Another Article Promoting Gender
At least when he's using it in the bedroom you can be fairly certain he's not viewing porn. I would think a woman would be more concerned about use of a laptop in private and it's effect on 'intimacy' ...
If you're not getting any, it probably has less to do with a laptop in the bed and more to do with your relationship ...
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sex in the city
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the real lesson
marriage, especially in america, is just a contract for women to make sure they get money and free stuff while not having to be a true wife. need to start making marriage contracts where women have to keep up what they started at the start of the relationship. not just use it to entrap a man.
but then i'm a cynic and Leykis listener.
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Women . . . OK I see benefits of laptops, guess I'll go buy one.
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Find a better match, I guess
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mmmmm
but all of this relates to people maintaining fake relationships rather than wether technology is killing intimacy. genuine intimacy cannot be rivaled by a couple emails... problems which exist on a foundation level within a relationship will be shaken by gadgets, hobbies or laptops. if two people have an honest and real understanding of one another no techy business can get inbetween them.
if you dont wanna get into bed with your own partner/wife/husband then dont. (but dont blame laptops either!)
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No Laptop, No Soaps
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What if it's a husband replacement
hubby, it would be the ultimate confusion for the man. On one hand tech is cool and the net is cool and porn is really cool. On the other the wife is doing her own thing and slapping the man away saying "you had yours", tough world.
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Laptop in Bed
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Laptops in bed
I was relutant to put a TV set in the bedroom then cable TV, then a VCR, then a combo VCR+DVD machine. Now with the TV on with either a cable program or DVD movie she is running the laptop as well.
My wife aka software developer uses it to check bus. and personal emails, server status, special projects, research items for informational purposes while in bed or on the couch. This can go on for hours.
I might read a book but usually try to get some sleep. click click click click click click...
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i'd rather
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embarassed for the writer
If it's not the laptop in bed it's some other reason he doesn't want to deal with her.
Lets face it lady, if your husband would rather spend time with his laptop then you, you're doing something wrong.
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Re: embarassed for the writer
And as a wife -- AND a software developer, thank you -- I'm inclined to agree that that kind of interactive technology doesn't belong in the bedroom. If he or I want to catch up on stocks, news, chat, email, etc, then the time and place is in the office or living room before bed. I feel that our bedroom is a place to be interacting with each other.
That said, that's my lifestyle. There seem to be other folks who make a second living room or den out of their bedroom, and using the computer or playing video games is the norm. Good for them, and good for that gentleman (or lady) who wants to compute from bed.
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My laptop loves to snuggle
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Laptops In Bed
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What we're looking for
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Just Climb Into The Laptop Already
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made millions in bed
Besides, before I had my first laptop, I put my bed in front of my desk to work on my desktop machine while comfortable in bed. I don't like sitting at desks, might be from all the years in school, it's too tiring, results in bad posture and backpain.
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click clack futon
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