Prosecutors Go Overboard In Indicting Woman Involved In MySpace Hoax That Resulted In Suicide
from the out-for-vengeance dept
Before we get into the details, I think everyone can agree that the story of Megan Meier is quite tragic. She was the 13-year-old girl who was "friended" on MySpace by a boy with whom she became close online. After a certain amount of time, the boy turned on her, trying to end the friendship and saying that "the world would be better off without her." After receiving this message, Megan committed suicide. Later, it was discovered that the boy in question never existed -- and was part of a hoax perpetrated by some of Megan's friends/neighbors, including the mother of one of Megan's former friends. The story is, most definitely, sad and tragic -- and it's no surprise that there are people out for vengeance, with the main target being Lori Drew, the adult who participated in some manner in the hoax. However, as we said back when state prosecutors in Missouri couldn't find any law to prosecute, being a total jerk online is not a crime. As stupid as the prank was, it wasn't designed to make the girl commit suicide.But, of course, when you have a high profile case that includes a 13-year-old girl committing suicide after being misled, people are still going to push for something to be done (or they end up doing something themselves). So with state prosecutors failing to find anything, federal prosecutors stepped in, and have now indicted Lori Drew on a number of different charges, relating to "conspiracy and fraudulently gaining access to someone else's computer." This seems like a serious stretch. It's an effort to twist existing laws just to punish this particular woman because people are upset by the outcome. Legal scholars are already quite worried about how the indictments appear to twist the law in potentially unconstitutional ways.
Why? Well, some of the charges are based on computer anti-fraud laws that prevent "unauthorized access." And, here's where the prosecutors got creative: they claim that in not providing truthful info to MySpace when registering (i.e., in breaking the terms of service), effectively Lori Drew "hacked" into MySpace's computers in an unauthorized manner. Now, no matter what you think of what Lori Drew did (or what happened as a result), this would basically make anyone who fails to follow the exact terms of service of an online service a potential felony hacker. That is a problem. I recognize the desire to punish someone for what happened to Megan -- but twisting the law this way will have very dangerous consequences.
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I think this is absolutely horrible no doubt, but the last thing I want is to be sent to jail for looking at kid the wrong way. Wrong? yes, but wrong enough to send the woman to jail? Not if it is going to set bad trends like this.
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Good point
But your last paragraph got me thinking - I routinely give fake info when registering for various things - it's amazing teh amount of info some sites look for in order to do something mundane;
For example Ryanair - just to get to the final price of the tickets (after all the add-ons, taxes & charges), you have to provide all the passenger details, addressing information, baggage information... If I'm just checking out prices, I'm not going to give 'em all that, and I don't. Does that make me a felon for using their resources (pretty heavy ones at that, finding flights, finding seats, calculating prices...) whilst providing incorrect data??
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bad cases make bad laws
All that said, this is a bad application of the law, the conspiracy charge I get, the others I do not. Ms. Drew is many things, several of them criminal, but “hacking” clearly is not one of her crimes.
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that is just off the top of my head, I would think a real lawyer could come up with a few more.
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You would think so,but they tried and none of them fit.
No matter how tragic what happened you can't twist law to suit public oppinion.
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Isn't it illegal to ask someone to do something illegal? Does that fall under some conspiracy to commit **fill in the blank here**?
I would think telling someone the world would be better without them would be the same as telling them to off themself.
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It was tragic what happened, but a key point here is that it was unintended. It was malicious, cruel, fairly stupid, and all three girls involved should be ashamed of themselves and owe some sort of restitution for their acts. But what should not happen is rwisting the laws in order to get revenge. It would be satisfying in the short term but would also pave the way for making our lives a lot harder to live. What she did was wrong, but it wasn't illegal, and trying to make it illegal in retrospect is only going to get us all in trouble.
It's not a crime for me to tell you you're a waste of space. (I don't hold such an opinion, I'm just making a point.) Now, I have no way of knowing if you have mental problems or not, and I don't think I could be reasonably held accountable for the actions you take based on an off-hand comment I make. I'm sure they intended to hurt Megan by saing what that did, but they didn't really mean she should kill herself.
It was tragic in all ways, but you can't make it a crime.
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You and I are both adults, Mrs. Drew was telling an emotionally disturbed child to kill herself.
Mrs. Drew knew the kid was depressed and on medication. As a supossed friend of the family, she has some duty of care not to taunt her and drive the kid to suicide.
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We see filling out the online forms as a tiny white lie but in reality it truly is a federal wire fraud charge; most people simply choose not to turn you over to the feds for this because you've likely done nothing else wrong but Lori went overboard and now she's paying the price.
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Not always.
I would think telling someone the world would be better without them would be the same as telling them to off themself.
Not even close. And even if it were, would telling someone do kill themselves make you guilty of a crime if they went and killed themselves? Do you not believe that people have free will?
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Anyone that commits suicide does it because they feel that they are being mistreated by society often particular people. Should we be investigating every suicide and prosecuting anyone that person my have had a problem with? I hope not!
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the problem here is that everyone says that the parents should watch what there kids are doing online, and that kids should avoid strangers online, now, i dont know about you, but if some boy she had never met started talking to her, she should have just ignored him.
i often get friend requests on myspace from people i have never met, and what do i do? i dont develop a close intimate relationship with every one of them, i instead ignore them. and if she commited suicide just based on the quote "the world would be better of without you" then her mother should be locked up because the girl was obviously in a very fragile state with low self esteem. either from an abusive father, mean kids at school, or perhaps her mother dident love her, but just saying to a normal person "the world would be better of without you" is not grounds for them to off them self.
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I hate to say it...
When I was young we had to deal with all sorts of bullies all the time. You got thick skin and learned to deal with it. The fact that the harassment resulted in a girl with emotional problems (and what 13 year old girl doesn't have some kind of emotional problems?) to kill herself is incredibly tragic.
The problem here isn't that someone used a computer to do something. The computer was merely incidental. As someone else pointed out, you could have done the same thing via postal mail or some other medium, so trying to use computer laws doesn't make sense in this case. The crime (if any was committed) was the harassment. It's a shame that the state laws don't allow her to be prosecuted. Usually they charge people with manslaughter for accidentally causing someone's death, right? I suppose that probably doesn't apply when the victim commits suicide though, that probably limited the prosecutor's options quite a bit and they declined to prosecute something that wouldn't stick.
Of course, they could have just decided not to deal with criminal charges and left it to the families to sort it out with a civil suit. I believe that there is probably a strong case here for a wrongful death case, or something similar. Not only are they more likely to win such a case, but it also seems like a more appropriate use of law than trying to twist something that doesn't fit in the slightest and has implications that are far further reaching than most people realize.
When I saw the headline that the mother was being prosecuted, I thought it was a good idea. Now that I see how they're doing it, I'm 100% opposed to it.
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Wrongful Death
Perhaps an attorney could shed some light on the possibility of a wrongful death suit.
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The prosecuters should focus more on the "world would be better off without you" qoute and try bending the law to make that illegal instead. I could kinda see how that could be criminal neglagence.
And now i have to explain why just because i dont agree with the charges aginst her i still dont support her to all my friends and neighbors
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I think Lori Drew does need prosecution, however, I'm not sure that they are going about it with the right charges.
It's a sort of horrific borderline case.
Then again, I'm not a lawyer (not even on TV) so I don't understand the intricacies.
I mean, this woman, an "adult" 1) personally knew the child was mentally unstable and prone to depression 2) knowingly embarked on a cruel hoax against aforementioned child in an effort to protect/redeem/revenge her own precious snowflake. It wasn't one statement designed to "end the friendship". She convinced that young girl that a boy loved her, cultivated the relationship, then turned it nasty. To me that's reckless endangerment...
I don't think it's appropriate for her to be charged with murder...but getting off scott-free with an "oopsy! Did I do that?" isn't appropriate either.
I weep for humanity that someone out there thought it was perfectly ok to do something like that.
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bad decisions
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Good points...
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Yes, it does as a matter of fact. The law has been on the books since the 1980's. If the owner of the site chooses not to prosecute, it's probably because you've done nothing else wrong and they have chosen to ignore your transgression.
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When someone violates the TOS, it's called breach of contract and it's a civil offense. No criminal court would touch it....
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If you would prefer to medicate your daughter, rather then talk to her, spend time and make her feel loved then you shouldn't be a parent.
At 13, living in the suburbs, you can't be depressed enoug hto warrant a huge amount of drugs.
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I didn't know you were a Scientologist. Or are you Tom Cruise posing as Lori who is posing as someone who obviously isn't Lori?
Glad you can try to throw the blame on Megan's parents but since you don't know her situation and are probably not qualified to diagnose psychological issues, let's just say your response is simply crap.
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And exactly what experience do you have dealing with (a) teenage daughters and (b) clinical depression?
CLINICAL depression is a chemical imbalance. Talking and spending time does NOT fix the chemical imbalance.
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Perhaps they don't mean it...
Only seems fair.
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hey should at least make her miserable for the rest of her life but she did a pretty good job of that already.
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HAHA wow... thank you for that!
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Just curious
I also wonder what opinions would be if this had been a 49 year old MALE harassing a minor female child? Just curious. And before you say there wasn't any sex talk, go read the indictments.
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Whether or not she should be punished is getting mixed reactions in here.
Its the way the law is being applied. It may seem appropriate now, but one this has been set as applicable in this manner it'll start getting used for all sorts of cases that don't really warrant that sort of treatment.
Its about the precedent setting that this could do.
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Only because there's no such crime as "hacking". The law used to prosecute "hackers" is a federal law that outlaws "unauthorized access to a protected computer system". There are more details buried in there, but it's essentially the same thing. I suspect she'll get off though on several grounds. Firstly, he access was authorized even though she provided false information and violated the ToS. She set up the account, Myspace activated the account. Secondly, the system wasn't truly protected because Myspace made no effort to verify the information used to create the account. So if you set up "protection system" that doesn't actually "protect," how can you claim the system is protected?
More to the point, if they want to use this law then the victim is no longer the dead girl or her family, the victim is Myspace. They are the ones who have to file the charges, which they have apparently decided to do (probably to avoid even more negative publicity). Unfortunately for Myspace, it will likely come out in court that what Myspace is calling "protection" isn't any sort of protection at all. That's going to be a big black eye for them. And then the victim's family could decide that if Myspace claimed to have certain protection in place and the courts found that protection was just window dressing, doesn't that make Myspace liable for the failures of their security system? After all, if Myspace had verified the identity of their users then this wouldn't have happened. Heck, for all we know the family went after Myspace first, and Myspace agreed to prosecute to get themselves off the hook.
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Conspiracy to induce suicide or suicidal tendencies?
It is probably irrelevant whether this is achieved via real or virtual identities.
It would be comparable to inciting violence or racial hatred say. But in this case, it's like inciting self-violence or self-hatred.
Compare with anti-terrorism laws that prohibit inducing suicide bombers, i.e. in this case inducing someone to commit an act of suicidal 'terrorism' where the only victim is the 'terrorist' themselves.
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A potential solution...
Unless she has the means to get multiple restraining orders, this will probably be effective.
The nice part about this is it's not taking the law into your own hands -- since there is, apparently, no law that forbids goading people into killing themselves...
Come to think of it, could this be a new method of assisted suicide?
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Kathy Sierra is harassed on line by one anonymous moron and it's the end of the world. A 13 year old girl is the recipient of harassment by fraudulent, ill-meaning **ADULTS** several times her age and it's just "being a jerk". Are you fucking kidding me?!
Since when is an adult posing online as a child and engaging in sexual conversations with a child (we know that at the least flirting went on) simply being "a jerk"?
I don't want people to be forced to hand over their documents and identity in order to get online. I don't want to revokke anonymity. I don't want to prosecute people for "being a jerk". But I do want this specific individual and her family to pay. If they had harassed her to half this degree IN MEATSPACE, nobody would have tolerated it. This case goes FAR BEYOND simply "punishing someone for being a jerk".
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Prosecutors Go Overboard In Indicting Woman Involved In MySpace Hoax That Resulted In Suicide
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=cnPMpu1nJ2k
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Do you even know what ADD is?
I can tell you its nothing like being a hair away from killing yourself such as the old man with the heart problem was.
A group of full grown adults manipulated this little girl over a long period of time.
The ADD is irrelevant and your example has no comparison.
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Results
Significant associations between suicide and self-harm, injuries owing to assault, and diagnosis of ADD were found. Patients diagnosed with ADD stayed in the hospital longer than others, disregarding the cause of their injury.
Conclusion
Children and adolescents with ADD are at risk of being victims of assaults, as well as suicide and self harm. Assessment for ADD can be considered as part of school-age childhood screening programs.....GOT IT ?!!!
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That doesn't exactly equate to "Oh, he's got ADD, we better be careful he doesn't hurt himself."
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What this ADULT did resulted in the death of a CHILD. She is accountable and should be held responsible for her actions.
Involuntary manslaughter at least and 20+ years IS what she deserves and then maybe others won't think that this is acceptable behavior from an ADULT!
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Serves em right
WRONG! Just because an end result of your action was not intended does not mean that a harsh punishment should not be put in place! If this was your child you have a different opinion. The "Adult", who was 49 FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, was quite aware that that poor girl suffered from depression and other things of that nature. I think the harshest punishment should be put in place in the hopes that it will prevent future malicous attacks on people. Afterall, if you are the cause of an accident because of talking on your cellphone and not paying attention and that accident results in a death, you were not being malicious, but your neglect and disregard for the people around you should warrent, at a minimum a manslaughter charge.
Thats my opinion. Good topic of debate!
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You read way to much into this
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Al Capone
She did use "electronic wire" to harass and there is a law on the books for that. She did illegally access a website to commit that harassment and there are laws against that illegal access as well; even if they normally choose not to prosecute because you don't want to give out your real name, the moment Lori's intent became to harass, she put herself under the scrutiny of the prosecutors and then they'll find any little thing you've done wrong and make it stick to you even if most of the country does the exact same thing.
They nailed Dr. Kevorkian for assisting people with suicide but the charge they got him with wasn't "assisting people with suicide". I'm all for Dr. K but he did put himself in a position to be scrutinized and so he paid the price. Lori Drew has done the same and I hope they stick it to her.
So enjoy those tears Lori, I know I am.
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secondly, as already stated by many, using a fake identity is a violation of the policy of the website, however it is not criminal and there is no prosecution because it is a civil matter
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Now I understand the sentiment fueling certain reactions and feelings, a 13 year old is dead etc..., but seriously, where's the harassment? Because if you somehow make the case that she was harassed, from now on, every (real) break up in a romantic relationship, or falling out between friends, that does not happen on the best of terms will equally be eligible for harassment charges.
Not related to this reaction, but I've read people say Megan's parents are to blame and others reply they're not. I wouldn't go so far as to say Megan's parents are responsible for her death (although at the time, I remember reading something about Megan committing suicide after an argument with her mom, but let's forget about that) and that they weren't bad parents, etc...
Here's my take on it: either they didn't know their 13 year old daughter was having an intense, erotic and even virtual sexual relationship with a (as far as they would know) 16 year old boy, or they knew and were ok with it...neither of which, in my book, would fall under the category good parenting. That doesn't make them responsible for her suicide, but it does for sure exclude them from the good parents club
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Yes, but this is not a good thing. We don't want there to be so many criminal statutes enforced .001% of the time that a prosecutor can, whenever he wants, charge you with multiple felonies you didn't even know existed. That's a setup for a police state. We're not there yet, but it kind of feels like we're headed in that direction, and this case may be an example of that.
We all know this woman is despicable and we have no sympathy for her. It's not about that.
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The application of the law is bad. Find another way, or use another law.
Does anybody give the full truth in signing up for anything on the net? Hopefully NOT.
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All the crimes they listed are simply absurd and not intended for anything like this. If someone thinks she acted immorally (as I do) that's fine, but it's very different than violating actual law.... politicians violate morality all the time, but I don't see many of them behind bars.
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The problem is the definition of a malicious act. Regardless of how immoral something someone does maybe, there has to be an exact criminal law violated for it to be a legal matter. If lying to someone about their identity and later offhandedly telling them the world would be better of without them is shown to be a true violation of some crime, at least half the people on the dating scene will be arrested.
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There is no question in regards to wether this was malicious. The definition is cut and dry.
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People, it was tragic that a young girl committed suicide. And, I hope Lori Drew pays for it in some way. But.., the Government should not set a precedence of bending laws to make just about everyone who uses the internet guilty of a felony, just to punish a woman for horrible morals that led to the tragic death of a young girl.
So please drop the Lynch Mob mentality and think with some Logical reasoning, DON'T let the government twist laws that could land yourself in jail. And if you want to continue to have the Lynch Mob mentality, go be a vigilante yourself, not by proxy behind the government twisting laws.
Oh yeah, if any of you actually knew about the case, which I read about when it originally was a story. It's only 1 (ONE) adult, and a couple teenagers who conspired to create the false MySpace page.
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Problem & Solution
Legislators need to stand up and take action. They need to pass laws so that scum like Lori Drew can be properly prosecuted for malicious actions like hers in the future.
I would suggest amending current harassment laws to make it a crime to harass another person using an assumed identity and persona, if the harassment is linked to any resulting serious bodily injury, but carve out an exception that remaining anonymous is not adopting an assumed identity or persona. This would essentially make what Lori Drew did a crime, without jeopardizing our rights to anonymous speech online, and without creating a law that says mere words themselves are harmful.
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I don't use my real information either on many online form, but never with the attempt to bully and manipulate a CHILD!
Throw the book at her and let every law that sticks determine her fate!
#23 said it also "And I don't think that it is JUST about giving false info , It is about giving false info to gain access to something in the act of a crime that lead to the death of a minor."
There is much more to this case then just that she gave inaccurate info online, Its about the end results mostly and what she did to get to that point.
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Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket for going 10 over? You may not have been driving recklessly, or even *meaning* to do it, but it's still an infraction. By the comparison of #29, speeding tickets should only be given out after car accidents.
The point is that she's not being prosecuted for being a cruel, heartless bitch, she's being prosecuted for violating a TOS *because* she's a cruel, heartless bitch, and many of us are wondering if that's a good thing for the law to do.
=Valkor=
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Your missing the point: If a 49 yr old bullies a CHILD on school grounds they are on their way to prison. If Lori was also a CHILD , we would not be having this conversation.
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Besides, yet again, it wasn't Lori who made the "...better off.." remark
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I think the mother of the suicide girl should be punished
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Besides, if the parents were paying more attention to their childrens surfing habits, they would have seen what was going on.
I guess your one of those folks who think we should censor everything to "save the children" when in reality, the parents should be actually PARENTING and teaching their children wrong from right.
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Seems to me the other woman was a predator - that's wrong no matter how you look at it.
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If you would prefer to medicate your daughter, rather then talk to her, spend time and make her feel loved then you shouldn't be a parent.
At 13, living in the suburbs, you can't be depressed enoug hto warrant a huge amount of drugs
As a clinical psychologist I see young people like this all the time. Your assumption that the parents are just filling their daughter with pills because they don't care about her is not only likely incorrect, it is ignorant of the facts and blames the victim.
Depression often has as much to do with biology as it does with psychology. I've had parents, who are very much involved, frantic because they know their child is depressed and they have tried everything they know to do and it hasn't worked.
Also, just because you live in the suburbs doesn't mean your life is an easy ride. You have no idea what she was struggling with in her life. Where she lived made no difference.
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assisted suicide works for me
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all of them should be punished
The person that should be at fault for the girl killing herself is the parents of the girl. She was unsupervised online and shouldn't have been. Plain and simple.
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That would be justice!
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Liam, your $cientology is showing
What were the massive amounts of drugs Megan was on? How often did she take them? Was she taking them when she died? You don't know the answers to any of these questions, but it doesn't matter anyway, because according to ElWrong Hubtard, drugs and psychiatry are evil, right?
Yes, according to you, someone who is depressed just needs fresh air, vitamins and a good game of Monopoly with the family. Any 13-year-old will easily be able to thwart the actions of their 49-year-old neighbor who is attempting to manipulate them with cruelty and fraud, if only they could get hugs and smores with the family. You and Tom Cruise should get together. Wait, are you Tom Cruise? Sorry, I guess I got a little "glib" there.
You are retarded and a waste of oxygen. But please, don't go killing yourself. You might not like the new body your thetan picks up after the implant station. You might end up with a cruel neighbor who bullies you on the interwebs.
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Scary stuff..
I had a troubled teenager living with me that was addicted to myspace. His mother was a real work of art, didn't want him and so I took him in. I tired every effort to block him from that darn site through parental software and my router. I underestimated the kid and every time I returned home I'd discover had been on myspace again through the use of proxy servers. I battled blocking proxy servers for a while and then eventually gave up because it isn't possible to block them all. I couldn't block the internet completely because I'm a web developer and internet is crucial for my job and two of my own children also use the internet. Eventually the troubled teen got expelled from school and told him he wasn't going to live with me if not in school.
I moved him back to his mother's so she could place him back in school there. He wanted to live back with her anyways because she let him get away with what ever he wanted. I later found out she let him drop out. That b*%ch!
The one thing that bugged me the most was that he was ignorant enough to use his real name and town of residence on his myspace profile. I also discovered that the majority of the people he associated with on myspace listed their real names and locations as well. The teens would use their myspace accounts as public journals; announce parties, name and talk about their schools, and all sorts of stupid stuff. I think that people and especially children should never identity their selves over the internet.
If prosecuting Lori on computer anti-fraud laws forces users to provide their real identity on myspace then I'm scared for the underage adults that use myspace. It would be pretty unsettling if everyone had to give their real identity on myspace or else face the possibility of prosecution for breaking these terms. That would make children, whom are smart enough not to give out their personal information, more vonerable.
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I mean, really?
I'm a bit torn here...I feel the adult who participated in the hoax should be punished. 13 year-olds are confused and very susceptible to the input of others. An adult, with a child of her own, should know this.
However, as much of a dick-move that was...it's not illegal. Harassment at most. This is tragic that a 13 year-old felt the only way to escape the pain was to off herself...but the adult wasn't planning on that to happen.
I dunno. I'm just as confused about this as the rest of the people in this thread.
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Re: I mean, really?
(just to be clear, this is not sarcasm) Definitely not Lori Drew
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If Lori Drew can be charged (see the first link in the second paragraph) for fraudulent access to MySpace, why isn't the dead teen's underage access to MySpace also considered a crime, and her parents charged for the same "fraudulent" access?
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any lawyers care to opine?
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The real Criminal ......
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oh, they are doing something? and its stupid and destined to fail and will waste a lot of time and lead to bad laws or precedents in order to punish one person for what is basically a fluke and might lead to me being arrested for being mean to you all under the name Nipsey Ruseel???
my bad. carry on doing nothing.
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Re: The real Criminal
Teenagers will do whatever they can get away with. If you start getting all up in the middle of their business, they're more likely to distance themselves and be more secretive and sneaky.
I will add, though, that the PC should be in a common area of the house (don't know where it was in this case) so that children will be less likely to try to do things they've been told not to do.
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Something wrong still with Lori Drew.
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So what if it had been a real boy
Seems to me the kid that killed herself over an internet relationship might have had some issues going on. We all get dumped at some point in our lives and most of us survive it.
Now it was wrong of this person to impersonate a boy and they should be punished but putting a woman in prison for it is crazy. The only way I could say yes to that idea is if these people set out to make this girl kill herself, which I doubt very much.
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If you want to prosecute someone, prosecute the damn parents for not paying attention to their kid.
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The charge is NOT for violating the TOS........ its for violating the TOS with INTENT TO DO HARM.
Thus giving a false name to yahoo mail is NOT a CRIMINAL offense, giving a false name to yahoo mail then using that account to plan a crime/harras/illegaly spam ect IS CRIMINAL more specifically.
Thus this is really a non issue. Your interweb pron surfings are safxxors
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However she will probably burn at the cross for this, but hey there are consiquenses for every choice...... weather the consiquenses are fair or not is irrelevent up for speculation
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Rediculous
Suicide: Suicide (from Latin sui caedere, to kill oneself) is the willful act of killing oneself.
Is it tragic when a child (or anyone) commits suicide? Absolutely! But face it people, if someone is at such a depressed level as to believe that suicide is the only way out then that person has serious psychological problems.
Perhaps the instigations online contributed to Megan's death. But so might have oppressed classmates, that failed test at school, an eating disorder, etc. I'm not saying any of these things happened to Megan but I am saying that there are always multiple contributions to psychological disorder. Typically, these are categorized as nature and nurture.
First, there is no law that prevents someone from being an idiot, rude, insensitive, etc. This is a country where we have freedom of speech, people. The woman had every right to be rude and obnoxious just as much as Megan had every right to ignore her and close her MySpace account (or whatever).
Second, if this contributor to Megan's psychological instability is to be blamed then someone better damned well be hunting down every other contributor and prosecuting it just as fervently.
Suicide, by definition, is willful and a crime against oneself. Nobody held a gun to Megan's head and said "kill yourself before I do!"
Megan's parents: I'm sorry your kid killed herself. Perhaps you should be prosecuted for failure to be involved enough in your kid's life to know what is going on in it. Or maybe failure to show your kid good morals and values and teach her when to ignore morons online. Or maybe even failure to monitor the online activities of a minor. We could make up all sorts of laws to put the "blame" of Megan's own actions and psychological instability somewhere else.
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Emotions do not have an IQ
what this adult did to this child is despicable but there is NO provable evidence that her mean, dirty trick made Lori responsible for Megan's suicide. I could take most of the posters' logic and make a case that Megan's PARENTS were ultimately responsible for her suicide for fomenting an unrealistic expectation in Megan for life having no bumps in the road. So...Megan thought some 16 yr old didn't like her any more..do you move on and get over it or do you overreact and kill yourself. That was Megan's choice and I am sorry that she chose what she did. As many here expressed in defense of these UNCONSTITUTIONAL charges vs Lori, we don't know the situation...well that cuts both ways...perhaps her parents weren't there as a support system, IDK, but neither do you. Using unprovable assumptions, I could make a case that TV or society in general caused this, though I would be wrong as are you who believe that there is a legal case vs Lori. Definitely there is a moral one and society is already making her pay for her infantile actions and lets not forget that Ive heard or read nothing of Lori expressing any sort of remorse which in my mind makes her one of the coldest bitches in history. These are my feelings, but they should NOT be legislated..talk about a slippery slope!
As many have during teen years, I was bullied, beat up, called the most horrible names, wished death upon,..all of it. I also dated, was active in sports and music, went to prom, etc...there were times I felt that the world was going to end over some ultimately trivial setback..it didn't Lori had no power over Megan that Megan did not give her. What if it were ACTUALLY a 16 yr old bastard instead of Lori (as indeed to the end she believed)? People, stop and use you brain instead of you emotions....you'll get a lot farther
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just wondering...
as for her not intending for meg to kill herself, yeah so what? i'm sure the drunk driver who hit and killed my friends sister didn't intend to kill her either. he was just trying to get home. and while this "prank" (a light term for it if you ask me but then i've read alot about this case) might not have been meant to make her commit suicide, it was meant to harass her, find out what she might be saying about the woman's daughter, and to cause her distress. and since we are handing out be involved parenting advice here, being a good parent is not going to this length just because your daughter isn't best friends with someone anymore...
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Bah
There's no logical reason to go after Lori Drew. Don't let your emotions over some kid confuse the matter. There is no rational, logical reason or law to go after Lori Drew for this.
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Post 78 / AJ
I don't have kids, but I was one recently (I'm 25, so my teens were only 5 years ago). And while I didn't tell my parents everything about my life there was still a level of respect, friendship, and love shared between us. Mom knew when things weren't good because she paid attention and knew me.
Anything that happened across more than a few weeks she at least had an idea about.
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Heh
How nice of you all to want somebody who did something wrong to be prosecuted, bad precedent setting be damned.
Such a large lack of forward thinking.
And I must laugh at the one guy who just started calling everyone who disagreed with him Lori. Thats like, what, 4th grade intelligence?
Only quick direct response I am tossing in here, to #87.
The drunk driver is a HORRIBLE analogy. The girl killed herself. Lori did not directly kill her. You would have to change it around to the drunk driving having killed all of your friends in the car except one. Then that last one goes and kills themselves because of the prior event. It would even then be a bad analogy but at least it is a tiny bit more accurate to actual events.
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Solution
If it is not a law, it should be, and a federal law at that.
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responce to killer_tofu
is the mother being railroaded with these charges? yeah, of course, but frankly i don't care. lots of people get screwed over everyday in our system and at least this lady deserves some type of punishment. (as i mentioned, being a good parent is NOT contacting a minor as an underage boy, initiating an "intimate" relationship with them to see why she isn't friends with her daughter anymore and then knowing she is emotionally unstable harassing her over and over again) does this mother deserve the max that she is facing here? i don't know, probably not. will this draw attention to this potential lack of being able to prosecute similar cases? probably so and in that maybe something will be done. are we going to start seeing the defense of, "my client was cybering with that minor to harass them your honor which is not prosecutable" probably not...but man that would be funny.
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Unwinnable
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* While Lori Drew did come up with the idea of setting this up, it wasn't to harass the girl, but to befriend her in a way where Megan would share what she was saying about Lori Drew's daughter. She did this after Megan had been saying mean things about Drew's daughter. This doesn't excuse anything, but those who are saying that she did this to harass don't seem to recognize this aspect of it. It wasn't set up to intentionally harass.
* Most of the comments made to Megan were done by Drew's daughter and another teenager, not Drew herself. Those saying that Drew said "the world would be better off without you" are wrong. It was another teen who wrote that message.
* The teen who wrote that message claims that she wasn't doing it to harass or upset Megan, but as a (poorly chosen) way of ending the whole hoax. She agreed that the whole thing had gone too far and (stupidly) thought that if the fake boy insulted Megan, it would be the best way to end that "friendship."
So, it often wasn't Drew doing things and it wasn't intended to harass the girl or make her commit suicide or anything.
It's still an awful situation, but the motives and actions might not be as bad as the lynch mob is making out.
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It happens
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re:re:re:re:
Just because we have all been bullied and survived doesn't make it the right thing to do. Some survive it with little damage, some survive it with a lot of damage. It would be great if we didn't have to survive it at all.
Suicide is a willful act in that the person does it to themselves. Most individuals who commit suicide don't want to die, they want to stop the intense pain they feel. Unfortunately they choose a long-term solution to a short-term problem. The pain would get better. But they do this because they are desperate and hopeless. It doesn't necessarily mean they were stupid, gutless, unloved, or unsupervised. It takes about 2 minutes to hang yourself. The person who decides to kill themselves often does so impulsively. If they have decided to end their lives they may actually appear in better spirits because they see an end in sight. This isn't a rationally made decision. This is an act of desperation. The family that is left behind feels devastated and haunted. They blame themselves sometimes for the rest of their lives about what they could have done, should have done.
We should let our emotions get caught up for some kid. This kid. Any kid. Teenage suicide and bullying are significant problems. There is enough tragedy and grief to go around in this sad set of events. I don't know what the answer is. Did one or two (or more) exchanges cause this young woman to commit suicide? It is hard to know, probably not, but cruelty never helps anyone. Is jail the answer? I doubt it. I work in a prison and I don't see that it has any particular curative powers. Unless she is a sociopath (which is a very rare condition) Lori Drew is paying a price for her poor judgment already and on some level for the rest of her life. She has to live with her capacity for hurting others and rethink her decisions for years to come. That's a lot though so might not think it's enough. I just think it's all so very, very sad.
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Woah!
In response to people with the attitude that Megan made the decision to kill herself and she is the only one to blame. Sorry, but I think that is absurd. She was only 13. Do you think it's ok for someone to offer drugs and alcohol to a 13 year old girl as long as she consents to taking them? Do you think it's ok for a 45 year old man to have sex with a 13 year old as long as she consents to it?
I'm not sure whether or not I feel Lori has been punished enough. Regardless of what her original intentions were, they were in no way good. Even if this debacle didn't end with the death of Megan, by coming up with the scheme and encouraging children to take part in it Lori taught her children and the other children who were involved that this type of behavior is "adult approved" and acceptable. Lori's irresponsible decision has messed up a lot of lives. Any parents out there care to comment on how they would feel about another adult involving their children in something like this?
I think she has proven herself to be a possible danger to children and should be treated accordingly.
This tragedy needs to be studied and learned from. There may not be laws in place to punish people who do this type of thing but there certainly should be. In virtually all other situations people are held accountable regardless of what their intentions were. This situation should be treated no differently in that aspect.
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let her rot...
In my opinion, Lori Drew set in place a series of events that caused a young girl's death
I don't care what law they use... as long as they use one
She preyed on a child. Feel lucky she didn't prey on your child
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Double standard?
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If she can be charged with this, what does that say about all of the convictions of sexual predators who will no doubt claim they were tricked by adults illegally claiming to be children?
Think of the bigger picture or what kind of precedent this will set.
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Where do we draw the line?
Imagine if food critics could be sued because they don't like a particular Chef's recipe? What if a pop star off’ed himself after being told he blew royally by Simon Cowell? Now imagine if a 13 year old girl committed suicide after being told by a supposed older boy she was worthless? There is nothing wrong with any of these scenarios and the only reason anyone is making a huff is because the boy turned out not to be a boy at all! A crime should not be created just for the sake of purposely trying to convict the ones “supposedly” responsible. Remember the old motherly adage about jumping off a bridge if someone told you to do so or if everyone else was going to? Don’t piss on me and tell me it’s raining and don’t blame someone for another’s stupidity.
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Re: Where do we draw the line?
"If I call you an idiot and you go and step in front of a train is that my fault? "
You are, of course, completely missing the point here:
1. Megan was *clinically depressed*, for which she was taking medication and being treated by a psychiatrist. This wasn't a case where someone was simply made to feel bad, but a case where someone with a history of mental problems was pushed over the edge.
2. Lori Drew and her daughter *knew this*! She wasn't picking on a random kid, but her daughter's former best friend. It should have been clear that playing with Megan's emotions in this way could have severe and unexpected consequences.
3. This wasn't just a spat between 2 teenage girls. This was an ongoing attempt by an adult to manipulate the emotional state of a child. If Lori was male, you can be damn sure that pedophile charges would be raised, for some reason her gender seems to exclude her from that.
These are the issues. God only knows how Megan would have felt. She was already clinically depressed (read: existing suicide risk) and was manipulated into believing that someone outside of her family actually gave a damn about her. When the "boy" did a complete 180 and started calling her worthless, etc., that would have made her world crumble, she snapped and the stress combined with her pre-existing condition caused her to kill herself.
Lori Drew was an adult, not a hormonal teenager. She should have both recognised that not only was this kind of harrassment totally unacceptable in any moral sense, but that by attacking a girl she knew was clinically depressed that she was playing with fire. Either she was too dumb to notice the danger in her actions, or she didn't care about the pain she would inflict. She deserves to be punished for that.
"If the child’s parents had been monitoring the child’s internet activities more closely perhaps this tragedy might have been averted."
Yeah because 24/7 surveillance on your teenage daughter would help build a happy home and trusting environment. Idiot.
From what I've seen, Megan's parents did what they could to control their daughter's online access. She bypassed their efforts and managed to do some things behind their backs. No teenager, ever, in the history of the world has not done something like that. If you think it's possible to control a teenager like that, you are a fool.
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Re: Re: Where do we draw the line?
just for the fun of it, I'm going to apply the same kind of un-nuanced reasoning a lot of people here, fueled by emotion, seem to display: if an online argument with an online "(boy)friend" results in suicide, we should blame the medication and psychiatrist, since they obviously did not do anything at all to soften or help Megan's condition
2. Lori Drew and her daughter *knew this*! She wasn't picking on a random kid, but her daughter's former best friend. It should have been clear that playing with Megan's emotions in this way could have severe and unexpected consequences.
Fact check: Lori (and the two teenagers involved)'s plan was to befriend Megan so they could possibly get information about what Megan was telling friends about Lori's daughter. Now you can argue all you want that that is immoral, that an adult should know better, etc... but this could very well be done without "playing with Megan's emotions", so you're rather skipping a couple of steps in making that statement.
3. This wasn't just a spat between 2 teenage girls. This was an ongoing attempt by an adult to manipulate the emotional state of a child. If Lori was male, you can be damn sure that pedophile charges would be raised, for some reason her gender seems to exclude her from that.
This is not just for you, the same goes for plenty of other people in this comment section, as the world at large: at least get the (available) facts straight. Using bogus statements (which are unchecked at best, or just plain wrong (or even lies)) not only weaken your argument intellectually, but make your argument sound emotion driven and that in and by itself forfeits your opinion from having any value. Although Drew was aware and involved, most of the communication between the boy and Megan, and in particular the "...better off..." comment were NOT Lori's
She should have both recognised that not only was this kind of harrassment totally unacceptable in any moral sense, but that by attacking a girl she knew was clinically depressed that she was playing with fire.
Again, befriending a girl online, although it may be amoral, does not constitute harassment. In fact, if we could have asked Megan seconds before she killed herself, she might have said she felt hurt, etc..., but not harassed. So you people stop calling it harassment, just because there are harassment laws doesn't mean you can use them in every situation. This was in no way harassment.
"If the child’s parents had been monitoring the child’s internet activities more closely perhaps this tragedy might have been averted."
Yeah because 24/7 surveillance on your teenage daughter would help build a happy home and trusting environment. Idiot.
She was already clinically depressed (read: existing suicide risk)
Megan's parents did what they could to control their daughter's online access.
First off, no they didn't everything they could to control their daughter's online access, they could have password protected the computer(s) and only allowed her online access when supervised (not necessarily looking over her shoulder every second) or just removed the computer out of the equation altogether. Installed a key logger, etc... In short, there are plenty of things they could have done
Secondly, yeah, the best strategy as a parent when you have a clinically depressed child (read existing suicide risk) is to let her have unsupervised access to the big bad of the world wide web. Heck, even a "healthy" child shouldn't have that, remember those real online sexual predators you guys so gladly try to make Lori out to be?
And last but not least: if I have a child that is clinically depressed and a suicide risk, I would make damn sure that I have (as close as possible to) 24/7 surveillance, especially when that child is entering the already by itself very emotionally taxing and high turmoil period of puberty
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Tina is no "Mother of the Year"
Having said that... where were Mom and Dad for this girl?!? Where's the possible criminal charges against THEM for being lazy parents? THEY knew better than ANYONE that their daughter had long-term emotional issues and IMPROPERLY ALLOWED, KNOWINGLY ALLOWED the girl to ignore the MySpace Terms of Service.
Snooty, rule-ignoring snobs often feel that Rules don't apply to them. Nice going Mom and Dad! NOW... who will you place your irresponsibility on? Let's see!
In this news story, there's plenty of blame for MORE than just the teen ex-friend down the street, that girl’s mother and the brain-dead guy employee who joined the mother and daughter in this tragedy.
Here's my own personal opinion of the spoken "unspoken" story behind the story...
>>> The girl’s “mother” admits "She technically wasn't old enough, because you have to be 14," Tina Meier said. "But I was the only one who knew the password. I read every message she received or sent.”
That’s a LIE! First she admits to allowing her MINOR child to break rules which she, as an adult, clearly knows and understands and then the tries to cover herself by lying about WATCHING EVERY MESSAGE!
>>> “I thought I could keep it safe, and Megan could meet some friends."
Yeah.. she THOUGHT! Look what her “smart thinking” led to!
>>> “Tina knew firsthand. Megan and the girl down the block, the former friend, once had created a fake MySpace account, using the photo of a good-looking girl as a way to talk to boys online, Tina says. When Tina found out, she ended Megan's access.”
Closing the barn door after the horse is out? But, really, DID she end Megan’s access? Read on...
>>> "Are you joking?" Tina asks. "There are fifth-grade girls who have MySpace accounts."
Great, Mom! Great excuse for you being a miserable SLACKER of a “mother.” “The other kids have them, why shouldn’t mine?”
>>> “As for sexual content, Tina says, most parents have no clue how much there is. And Megan wasn't 14 when she opened her account.”
“mom” not only KNOWS that her daughter is violating the rules by hanging out in a web site she’s too young to be on, but “mom” ALSO knows that the web site has a lot of sexual content! This “mom” should be prosecuted right along with all of the other adults involved in the sad story. This woman is to "Motherhood" what Jeffrey Dahmer was to "fine dining".
>>> “As Megan's 14th birthday approached, she pleaded for her mom to give her another chance on MySpace, and Tina relented.”
What happened to that “she ended Megan’s access”...? Is “mom” BRAIN DEAD??? The FIRST screw up wasn't enough of a lesson? MEMO: her daughter STILL wasn’t old enough and “mom” was STILL teaching Megan that it's OK to break the Rules!
>>> “Tina signed on, but she was in a hurry.”
No surprise there! Ms. Cosmo has places to go! Things to do! My goodness, she's just SOooo busy!!!
>>> “Before Tina could get out the door it was clear Megan was upset.”
“CLEARLY UPSET”...! But, what's "mom's" decision? Be a mother, spend time talking with her child, find out what’s wrong, and oversee her child's known improper activities? Ask he if she’s upset because perhaps an adult male had spotted the minor female on a web site she was too young to be on and had posted the kind of sexual content that “mom” was well aware of? Nope! Not today! TOO BUSY today! Not enough time for Megan today!
>>> “Tina recalled telling Megan to sign off.”
She OBVIOUSLY didn't even LOOK TO SEE if she was logged off! It would have taken, what? Two minutes??? THREE? I've seen HAMSTERS that were better mothers!
>>> "I will Mom," Megan said. "Let me finish up." Tina was pressed for time. She had to go.”
Oh! Yes! She just HAD to go! Her life is just SOoo busy and oh SOoo important she just COULDN'T play the part of a Mother! No time! Not her fault! Just SOoo much she had to do! You understand, right? Not her fault! Just really, really, really busy! No time! Had to go!
"You are not listening to me, Megan! Sign off, now!"
HIT THE "POWER" BUTTON, “mom”!!! This is a very feeble attempt to cast blame on her own MINOR CHILD!! At this point, she's already partially responsible for her own daughters death.
>>> “Once Tina returned home she rushed into the basement where the computer was. Tina was shocked at the vulgar language her daughter was firing back at people.”
Shocked?! More lies. She’s already admitted that she KNEW the type of “content” she was exposing her minor child to, all the while KNOWING the age rule was being violated. Also, if she'd shut off the Power before running off on her busy schedule, her daughter just MIGHT not have been sitting at the computer the whole time "mom" was out running around!
>>> “Tina, twenty minutes later, "I had this God-awful feeling and I ran up into her room and she had hung herself in the closet."
You left your mentally and emotionally disturbed child who was OBVIOUSLY in a TERRIBLY state of mind... ALONE?!? FOR TWENTY MINUTES?!? You didn't sit with her? Console her?! Council her?! NOTHING? For twenty MINUTES! Are YOU NUTS!?! Not, not nuts, just self-centered and callous.
>>> “Tina and Ron Meier, are now separated and plan to divorce.”
No KIDDING!? Well, at least the dad has enough sense to see what a piece of crap that nit-wit is as a mother; contributing to the death of his daughter. He knows what many thinking people know.
>>> "Adolescents take what is said online as the literal truth," said Justin Patchin, assistant professor of criminal justice at the University of Wisconsin, Eau Claire...”
It doesn't take a "Professor" to know that your kid's in terrible emotional stress. Tina KNEW the age limit. Tina KNEW her little girl was becoming romantically involved ON-LINE with what they thought was a boy, yet Tina LEFT THE HOUSE KNOWING her girl was distraught!
Now, here’s the real kick in the rear...
>>> “Dardenne Prairie, Mo., Meier's hometown, has since passed a law making online harassment a misdemeanor.”
Well, there it is! The inevitable NEW LAW which places “mom's” responsibilities on EVERYONE ELSE! It's not MOM'S fault that she's got the parental skills of a tree frog! It's SOCIETY'S fault! Now, WE'RE responsible for her non-existing parenting "skills"! Blame Society! Blame MySpace! Blame EVERYONE! Let’s hide “mom’s” pathetic mothering skills behind a NEW LAW!
But for God's sake ... don't blame that stupid twit for being a MAJOR part of the taking of her own daughter's all too short life...
“I did everything I could do to protect Megan”
What a lying, self-serving piece of dung this woman is. This completely disgusts me. She did nothing to “protect” her daughter that day. In fact, SHE DIRECTLY HELPED to EXPOSE Megan to that stuff! Only a FOOL would believe these self-serving lies!
“mom” Tina said in nationally televised News “Parents should know what their kids are doing on a computer.”
Right, Tina! Just like YOU did, right?! Oh, sorry, you DID know what your child was doing on the computer, didn’t you!? YES! But you were just tooooo busy being a trash heap of a “mother” to actually DO anything about it! You had PLENTY of opportunity to “protect” that little girl and you BLEW every chance! And now you KNOW it and you are desperate to get rid of the burden of guilt you will bear for the rest of your miserable life.
She can hide behind that “Oh look at me, the distraught Mother” facade, but anyone who has really looked into the police report made BEFORE she became a TV actor, will see CLEARLY that she never DESERVED a child like Megan. I hope her attorney coaches her really carefully before her deposition is taken and the Nation gets to see exactly how badly this woman behaved as a “mother.”
Tina is just as guilty as the other half-wits that participated in this fatal disaster. Don’t let that “oh so innocent wounded victim” crap fool you.
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Criminal Neglect
I am not excusing the actions of the "criminal" adult here, but please! you want to tell me that a parent let her "mentally" unstable daughter have free access to a world of pedophiles and other unsavory individuals and didn't have a clue as to what was going on? Then failing at their responsibilities, want to throw all blame at the other parties involved? Come on man!
The only people that should be prosecuted in this case with a REAL law are the dead girl's parents, for criminal neglect. Because I am pretty certain that this girl would have reacted the same way to any sort of emotional challenges that young people confront as a part of growing up.
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new crime calls for new law
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