Today, It's Good Manners Being Killed By Texting
from the what-next? dept
Some grumpy old editor at the New York Times must really be upset about all these damn kids and their cell phones. First, earlier in the week, it ran a story in its health section talking about how texting is destroying teenagers' thumbs and ruining their minds; now, it's got a piece on how texting at the dinner table is the latest epidemic of bad manners. There's the obligatory quote from a mental-health professional, as a therapist weighs in to say that texting while eating has become "a major issue" among couples in counseling. It also has etiquette writers keen to push their latest book by touting the need for proper gadget etiquette, as if being rude or inconsiderate has somehow changed since we got cell phones. It seems like for years, people have been saying how American families never eat dinner together anymore, but apparently that problem's been solved. Now if it weren't for those damn texts...Thank you for reading this Techdirt post. With so many things competing for everyone’s attention these days, we really appreciate you giving us your time. We work hard every day to put quality content out there for our community.
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Lame
Sounds like miss busybody has her panties in a twist.
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Re: Lame
You make it sound like it's wrong to comment on anything unless is has a direct effect on you. This is absurd in this case and it's absurd when people use the same lame logic to fault Techdirt for suggesting ways that the music or movie industry can improve their business models because Techdirt isn't in those businesses.
As for the actual topic of texting while at the dinner, what's wrong with commenting on this? Is it any more rude if someone is reading a comic book or playing a handheld game? No, but it's the same principle applied to modern technology.
If it was wrong or uninteresting to read about the same themes in the context of new situations made possible by technology, then no one would read Techdirt.
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I'm suprised you tried to compare the two.
What does Miss Manners @ NYT suggest be done in order to stem this most egregious breach of table manners?
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OK, so you first say that commenting on table manners in public is uncommon and then immediately reference Miss Manners, one of the most well-known examples of how table manners are discussed in public. Do you even read your comments before posting them?
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You would not believe the outrageous things that go on within the homes of neighbors. Just take a peek and you will be amazed.
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I'm sorry, did I miss something?
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What is not okay, however, is the kind of shift we have seen in the basic principles of social interaction. When a person is cut off in conversation so that the other guy can read or send a text message, that is downright rude no matter what era you live in. When a person spends more time in front of the TV than with their kids, it is a critical social breakdown. When a person starts up a loud phone conversation in an area reserved for others to focus, such as a theater or library, that is a complete lack of manners.
Etiquettes change, fine. But the complete bankruptcy of social concern and principle manners is more recent, and more alarming. I don't know what the cause is, except to say that I think our society is far too focused on celebrating the individual and has become an incubator for hubris and selfishness.
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Let me preface this by saying...
However, I have to agree with this article in principle, in that there are just some times that should be a phone call / email / texting free zone. Those times include family dinners and spending a few hours a night with ones family, along with any time you're having a conversation with another person. Sometimes it's ok to be disconnected, or to focus on things in the physical world; life as you know it won't end.
I think it's great we're all as connected as we are, but I think we all need to take one baby step back and realize that proper social etiquette still applies when using our gadgets.
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etiquette
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Perhaps T.V stations made this up because the newspaper was competing with television news programs. In response, newspapers blamed T.V for causing bad manners. :)
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Doesn't bother me at all.
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Manners
Spent the ENTIRE occasion texting, eyes and hands busy beneath the table. No conversation with anyone actually present. No partipation. Nothing. Oh, I forgot. She did come up for air long JUST enough to tear open her presents... and then returned to texting.
Apparently one set of grandparents flew in just for the party. Only to be ignored.
Next year, they'd do better to forget the party, forget the gifts, and just send the ungrateful child a text. "HPY BD LYLB"
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An article about an explosive new medium in technology invading our lives to the point of interfering with dinner/family time, was written about in the New York Times, in their Dining section.
An article in the Dining section about kids texting at the dinner table seems pretty god damn impressive as a piece about technology and its implications in everyday life.
I don't know how to make it more clear it was in their one section dedicated to food - but I guess at least someone should if the article's author won't.
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Not textings fault. Raise your children better, please.
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My parents were the same when when my brother and I lived at home. No tv, no answering the phone (landline or cell). No hats at the table and no texting when we finally got that feature. Its not the cell phones fault the kids these days have no manners. The parents need to man up (not being sexist or gender biased just to cover myself) and tell the kids to put the phone down for 45 minutes and have a dinner.
And if thats not the type of family you have then don't worry about this article because it doesn't apply to you and your family
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It's not the technology
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Old as the hills
Every 20 or so years, a new technology will be embrace by young people and eschewed and reviled by their elders. Even Plato ranted and raved about corrupt youth in ancient Athens.
It's as old as the hills!
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Ridiculous!
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