DailyDirt: Good Parenting, Bad Parenting, Is There Really A Big Difference?
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Who can really say what effect parenting has on the development of a child? Presumably, the parents of Ted and David Kaczynski didn't raise their sons in dramatically different ways, but these brothers ultimately live very different lives. It's sometimes difficult to define what a good parent is, and it may seem like it's easier to point out bad parents, but the distinctions may not be as clear-cut as everyone thinks. (Who is qualified to judge, anyway?) Here are just a few links on the topic of raising kids.- Peter Lanza, Adam Lanza's father, is now talking about his experience with his son before the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School. If there's a lesson to be learned from Adam's behavior, it may be that we don't yet know how to predict or find the motives behind these mass murder events. [url]
- For some time now, there's been a trend away from parenting with physical punishment. However, it looks like about 3 out of 4 parents yell/scream/shout at their kids at least once a month (and you gotta wonder what that 4th parent is doing, if not yelling). [url]
- If only parenting were as easy as this infographic makes it look. But maybe if everyone is more aware about what makes kids happy, we'll all be happier somehow. [url]
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Filed Under: adam lanza, child development, parenting, psychology, sandy hook tragedy, ted kaczynski
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Peer Pressure
Peer pressure can make people do the most unbelievable things, as Stanley Milgram discovered all those years ago. How else to explain why your Congress, discovering that researchers were reporting that stricter controls on guns would be a good idea, decided to ban such research?
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Re: Peer Pressure
See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Nurture_Assumption
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twin_study
Harris is right about the shared environment being approximately 0 for many traits at adulthood. There are some that show shared environment effects, e.g. criminality, but it is not necessarily due to parenting.
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Re: Peer Pressure
A child that is raised to have a greater sense of self, and is encouraged to recognize his/her uniqueness, is not affected to the same by peer pressure. Making sure that Susie and Billy know that they are just part of the pack, and insisting that they adhere to all of the social norms, is a great way to raise a child that will succumb to peer pressure. On the other hand, raising a child with that sense of self awareness, and the license to express his/her uniqueness, are a good way to prepare a child to deal with the pressures that often are exerted by the crowd around them.
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I will grant you that two completely different behaviors can arise from the same household. But let's not pretend that parenting makes no difference.
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This is clearly jumping to conclusions. There remain a lot of other possible factors that influence this -- including just plain chance.
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How about genetics and/or a brain disorder arising from genetics or a head injury? From the sparse evidence you provide it's impossible to tell but surely those should be discounted? Or is that too logical ? (In at least one large state in the US teaching 'critical thinking' is deemed to be a Bad Thing)
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Parental self-perception
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Ted Kaczynski
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