If Your Estranged Wife Doesn't 'Like' Your Facebook Status, That's Not A Reason To Attack Her

from the dislike dept

We've noted that there are different types of social cues in this era of social networking. For example, how should you respond to seeing that it's someone's birthday on Facebook? There are also all sorts of questions about when you should change your "relationship status," and what that means. And then there's the "to like or not to like" question in responding to the status updates of others. But, no matter what the questions are around the proper etiquette, I think we can all agree that attacking your estranged wife for not "liking" your status update about your dead mother is entirely inappropriate (story found via Kashmir Hill).
Police said Apolinar, 36, posted an update on his Facebook page about the anniversary of his mother's death and became angry after his wife, who he only recently separated from, did not click the "like" button to show she appreciated his comment.

Apolinar was allegedly drunk when he confronted his wife of 15 years at her home while dropping off his children on Tuesday night.

"That's amazing everyone 'likes' my status but you, you're my wife. You should be the first one to 'like' my status," he allegedly told her.
One wonders if she'll "like" his status update concerning his arrest and upcoming court appearance.
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  1. icon
    Rikuo (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 7:26am

    Mike, I actually don't want to sound like all those who attack you over the fact that some of your stories aren't about tech or law or whatnot...
    But in this case, I have to agree with them, at least somewhat. It's a standard case of domestic violence (although I doubt domestic is the correct term, seeing as how the man and woman were separated...). The article says he was drunk. What he said about Facebook was just an excuse, nothing more.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  2. identicon
    AJ, 13 Oct 2011 @ 7:38am

    Geek Online Rule #1 = If your going to get trashed, unplug yourself from the net.

    I imagine nothing would start a morning panic faster than waking up, still drunk, naked, with a web cam laying on your chest. !!!

    link to this | view in thread ]

  3. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 7:42am

    When life imitates art, that is plagiarism, he stole the idea from South Park.
    3D South Park (Blender 2.5)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNBk7seWHcY

    link to this | view in thread ]

  4. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 7:58am

    And yet pot is illegal.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  5. icon
    justok (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:01am

    Re:

    for me, it usually depends on which way the camera was pointing.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  6. icon
    Butcherer79 (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:04am

    My ex wife wasn't estranged, just strange... well, before the 'accident' anyway...

    link to this | view in thread ]

  7. icon
    justok (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:07am

    And

    and what about us that won't "Like"(c)(tm) this story?

    Also, this would have been geek news if it had been about her not +1-ing his post.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  8. icon
    Butcherer79 (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:07am

    Re:

    When I actually don't want to sound like someone I don't like, or do something I'll regret, generally I won't.
    It's a lot easier to not do something than to do it - Remarkably, you've managed both with that first sentance.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  9. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:07am

    Re:

    Eh, slow day at work, the blog needs content.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  10. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 8:40am

    Where do I click to "like" the wife?

    link to this | view in thread ]

  11. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 9:05am

    Re:

    Where I clicked to "like" your mother

    link to this | view in thread ]

  12. identicon
    Anonymous Coward, 13 Oct 2011 @ 9:35am

    Re: Re:

    Necrophiliacs on TD? Nice. Also with 2 year old mentality. Nice.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  13. icon
    Brian B. (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 10:05am

    Drunk while dropping off the children?

    Isn't the bigger story that this man was drunk while dropping off his children? Probably even drove there...

    link to this | view in thread ]

  14. icon
    Atkray (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 10:31am

    Re:

    The traffic pylon and policeman's helmet are the hard ones to figure out.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  15. icon
    Jeffrey Nonken (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 2:49pm

    As an estranged husband with two kids, aging parents, and connected with my wife via both FB and G+ (oh, and LiveJournal), I think I'm in a position to say that calling this guy an asshole is an insult to assholes.

    There are SO many things wrong with his actions that I don't know where to begin.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  16. icon
    The Devil's Coachman (profile), 13 Oct 2011 @ 5:17pm

    Re: Re: Re:

    Got your "dander" up, didn't it? Pretty much its intent. Hook. Line. Sinker.

    link to this | view in thread ]

  17. identicon
    VMax, 13 Oct 2011 @ 6:23pm

    Breathalyzer in keyboard?

    Might do a lot of us good. Just constantly sampling until it starts cutting off different web sites and email addresses.

    link to this | view in thread ]


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