The Real Danger Of MySpace: Girlfriends With Jealousy Issues

from the that'll-teach-him dept

Fri, Sep 15th 2006 9:01am — Carlo Longino

There have been plenty of stories about the dangers of MySpace, most of them focusing on how the site is supposed to be a breeding ground for predators to take advantage of children. But another danger of the site has gone ignored: jealous girlfriends. An Arizona woman has been arrested after she tried to hire someone to kill a woman whose picture appeared on her boyfriend's MySpace page, ignoring the option of leaving a comment on the interloper's MySpace page to keep her dirty paws off her boyfriend, online or off. Of course, like many of the problems MySpace and other social networking sites get blamed for, this has little to do with the site itself and more to do with one individual who's got some issues, but still, shouldn't we be doing more to protect the MySpace philanderers, as well as the children?

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Chuck Norris' Enemy (deceased), 15 Sep 2006 @ 9:09am

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Leggo my Eggo, beyotch!
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Jason Patterson, 15 Sep 2006 @ 9:27am

You make a good point. she took it way to far and it got out of control. she could have simply just ended it with with a comment to her or a msg. Yet, there is a possibility that she could have ignored the msgs or just blocked them if she really wanted to. Im currently a studen in college and we have a blog discussing recent news topics, one of the being the one you happen to blog about you can find us here. http://caxton.stockton.edu/comp1120/discuss/msgReader$88
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Brian Jenkins, 15 Sep 2006 @ 9:27am

You make a good point to try to stand up for myspace. I like how you say that we should try to protect the children more then this jealous nut case.
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Anonymous Coward, 15 Sep 2006 @ 9:46am

No... that would have gotten her in MORE trouble
IF she had actually posted anything negative on the site, then that would be used to find her (had she not been caught already), and or to make a stronger case against her during prosecution.

Yes, all criminals should post on MySpace what crimes they are about to commit. That's a great idea. Hell, you can even make a law for it. But the fact is, criminals don't actually want to get caught (except the jail hoppers), so they do try to NOT get caught.

You can say "it might have avoided any further conflict" but that is a "might". What if it didn't? She was just going for the assured victory. (and being an evil bitch)

NOTE: I am not defending her actions, just saying a CRIMINAL with CRIMINAL INTENT would not follow the recommendation to try to solve the dispute on myspace. Its ridiculous to suggest she could have. SHE's MENTAL.
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- Scott Meeler, 15 Sep 2006 @ 3:46pm
  
  Re: No... that would have gotten her in MORE troub
  He means post a comment instead of trying to have her killed duh
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  - Celes, 15 Sep 2006 @ 3:52pm
    
    Re: Re: No... that would have gotten her in MORE t
    But you still have to admit the point is valid.
    
    If a woman was murdered, and a week before the murder phone records show that her boyfriend's wife called her, the wife would immediately become suspect. It doesn't matter if she just called to talk about the weather. And in this case, there would be proof of some hostility. Not the sort of thing you'd want to leave behind if you're the sort of person who wants to get away with murder.
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rod, 15 Sep 2006 @ 10:19am

protection
if you're being satirical -- okay. but even then there's a little evidence that you are afflicted with the liberal disease of "shouldn't we do something." it's none of your business -- and you damned sure don't need to talk about "we" doing something. count me out. i believe in helping people, but not these holy crusades to solve all these social problems. the one incident you mention has solved itself through the existing mechanisms. the jealous girl, who was obviously unstable, has been arrested. it's got nothing to do with the way MySpace or YouTube conduct themselves. Well, you were probably just joshin' anyhow, right? I hope so.
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Vibeulator, 15 Sep 2006 @ 10:25am

Duh...
Some folks are simply not wired to understand "tongue in cheek," even when it's obvious...
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jsnbase, 15 Sep 2006 @ 10:36am

Yeesh, Rod.
'The liberal disease of "shouldn't we do something"'? After reading your post, I'm much more concerned with the idiot disease of "not knowing what the hell is happening." Relevance isn't a monster, don't be afraid.

I so badly want a male politician to make a stink about this so we can giggle at him for thinking it's a MySpace problem.

Then we can all call him a seXX0r n00b or something.
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- Mr. Obvious, 16 Sep 2006 @ 1:56am
  
  Re: Yeesh, Rod.
  Why not just call him Ted Stephens?
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Chris, 15 Sep 2006 @ 11:01am

Give it time...
...and you'll probably see some lawyer try to take a stab at myspace. Taking a shred of relevence from this scenario, applying it to some other soccer mom's complaint about the kiddies being a victim of the interweb (and not her bad parenting from allowing unsupervised use of the net, and having not educated her children about the possible dangers) and you'll have FOX's new headline story for the whole hour and a half the country pretends to give a damn.

MySpace isn't the problem, as always, it's people. People with malicious intent will use whatever resources are available to achieve whatever demented objective they've come up with. It's really that simple.
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Taige, 15 Sep 2006 @ 11:28am

Off Topic
'Relavance isn't a monster, don't be afraid.' I find this to be a rather interesting comment. Would you care to elaborate?

I think it's funny that relativists like you condemn people with opposite viewpoints. Isn't that hippocritical? After all, relativism is the idea to respect other peoples beliefs. Yet you attack him for disagreeing with you.
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- jsnbase, 18 Sep 2006 @ 8:34am
  
  Re: Off Topic
  I know it's probably too late, but:
  
  rel·e·vance (rl-vns)
  n.
  
  1. Pertinence to the matter at hand.
  
  in case you want to try that comment again.
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Anonymous Coward, 15 Sep 2006 @ 12:39pm

There needs to be a clear line set between what is "real" and what is "vitrual/cyber". This is were we are going wrong. My Space is not real as such anything on it ect.. is fake. What this lady did was in the real world. People need to understand the difference between "real" and "vitrual/cyber". We should be concerned with behavior that has an impact in the real world, not the virtural. No matter how many times you pull the trigger on the gun in cyber space no one dies.
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Danno, 15 Sep 2006 @ 2:48pm

Is it just me?
Is it just me, or are there more dummies posting than usual?

Post #3. Duh. Ever heard of sarcasm? The 'protect the children' references politicians who try to enact laws that are ridiculous, simply to look like they are trying to 'protect the children'.

Post #4. The idea was IF she posted a message to MySpace she WOULDN'T have hired a hit. Not both.

Post #5. Clue in, please. Your whole post was based on a false assumption that the writer of the blog was being wholly serious.

Post #9. 'I think it's funny that relativists like you condemn people with opposite viewpoints'... Do I need to say anything more about that, really? Did you actually read the post by rod?

Post #10. Everything on MySpace is fake? That's a very interesting standpoint. My MySpace has real facts about me, a real person... And at least a few of the people listed as my 'friends' are, in fact, my real friends. And, believe it or not, if I leave a comment on someone's MySpace, they do, in fact get it, and read it for 'real'. So... tell me again how it's all fake?
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Sarah, 17 Sep 2006 @ 11:23pm

Her boyfriend's wife?
I did a double take and had to reread that.

As cyberculture expands and overlaps more and more with our "real lives", one rule to help nip these sorts of issues in the bud: Boyfriends shouldn't have wives.

Hey, that rhymed.
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Jmac, 18 Sep 2006 @ 10:45am

dont mess with my man, imma be the one to bring it to ya......or hire some1!? either way!
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Klaw, 18 Sep 2006 @ 10:47am

dont mess with jealous girlfrriends or youll find yourself dead!!!
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Kevin Pina, 27 Dec 2006 @ 10:27am

MySpace Malicious Uses to Damage Reputations
I opened a new account earlier this year but never had the time to use it. Today i received a request from someone wanting to join "my friends." Out of curiosity I went back through my emails and retrieved the original account information and password initially forwarded to me after opening the account. Lo and behold the password worked and there before my eyes was a page containing pornographic photos and videos and material i personally would never want to be associated with. It was still under my name with my current email address.

I have been a journalist and documentary filmmaker for over 20 years and have been the target of malicious personal attacks because of my political stance in questioning US foreign policy. Anyone who saw this MySpace page in my name would have associated it with my person and reputation which I find frightening. Again, access to this page was only possible by using the original password that was sent directly from MYSpace.com.

Needless to say, I immediately deleted the account after creating a .pdf of the contents to forward to my attorney.

The interesting thing was that the first friend on the account was a photo of a man named Tom. I have since learned he is Mr. MySpace himself.

Beware of MySpace, their role and intention is less that transparent and clear to me.

Best,

Kevin Pina
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Booyaaahh, 8 Jun 2007 @ 12:11pm

Agreed
Yeah i know what you mean, I think it's okay if there not going to like kill someone but amke fun of someone, personal experience :]
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LE, 29 Dec 2007 @ 7:35pm

here's something we can think about.....

myspace isnt that bad..
you CAN block your profile
and those pedafile/stalkers/um murderers wouldnt be able to see it anyway

yeah it can be dangerous but so are amusement parks and dont see moms freaking out over test statistics where the dummies arms and heads were lost...
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Love Relationship Advice, 29 Mar 2010 @ 4:00pm

Wow...
The site isn't dangerous, people are dangerous. It's unfortunate that people don't seem to have a better outlet for their anger than trying to hurt/kill someone else.
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