Blog Posts About Crusing Around The Caribbean On New Boyfriend's Sailboat Leads To Alimony Reduction
from the careful-what-you-blog-about dept
There are a growing number of lawsuits involving stuff people put online via social networks, blogs, Twitter, etc. which later gets them into trouble on legal issues. Evan Brown has the details on a case involving a woman who was receiving alimony from her ex-husband. This took place in Connecticut, where the law says alimony can be reduced if the ex-spouse starts living with an unrelated member of the appropriate sex. The court then used a bunch of blog posts about her sailing around the Caribbean for months on her new boyfriend's sailboat (along with the fact that she had rented out her own condo) to conclude that she was, in fact, cohabitating with someone new, and reduced her alimony by 70%.Thank you for reading this Techdirt post. With so many things competing for everyone’s attention these days, we really appreciate you giving us your time. We work hard every day to put quality content out there for our community.
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in the land of no fault divorces this tired and outdated concept should be retired. especially when considered that women are the primary recipients of alimony (men getting around 5%) and women are statistically the partner who files for divorce the most. only 12 -15 percent in one study for abuse 30% for cheating and the majority for irreconcilable differences.
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$250/wk = $13000/yr
$75/mo = $900/yr
$13000 - $900 = $12,100 reduction, which is 93%, not 70%
That's huge, and serves the ho right. Braggarts always get busted sooner or later.
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Re: so he is raking in the money. Should he have to pay alimony, I think so
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It's fun to watch everyone from A-list celebs to the greedy divorcee down the street get their ass handed to them for failing to think before they tweet.
How many people have we seen loose their job because they think being the first to blurt out an opinion on some hot topic is somehow important?
For all the good Twitter CAN do in the world, it's still 99% the noise of self-absorbed schmedricks who actually think anyone cares what they had for lunch.
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David,
While I agree alimony is an outdated concept and should be phased out, I think our society is not 100% there yet. There is still a huge pay gap for women doing the same jobs as men - this is documented - and many women are still encouraged by their families to essentially go straight into being a wife/mother with little or no experience in the job world. If their husband does later divorce them, then that woman is at a significant disadvantage.
But rather than pay her money for nothing the rest of her life (here I can sympathise with guys a lot)... it seems like paying for a shorter time-frame (long enough to get some job training, perhaps) would be better in this situation. Hell I would say that it should go the other way as well if a working woman divorces her "stay at home dad" husband who has been raising the kids.
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My belief is that alimony should also be conditional where the receiving party must prove that they are actively seeking employment and/or training in order to become self sufficient.
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When are men and women doing the exact same jobs? And there's quite a number of reasons that the pay can differ since men are more likely to negotiate price.
And I hate to say it but another "risk" for a company is to have a woman trained in a certain industry but then she leaves for maternal care, not to return.
The few women that I can think of as career women are Carly Fiona, Tina Fey, or Zoe Lofgren. How should they be paid when compared to others?
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Who else is gonna do it? Have the babies, I mean. Babies, kids, they're debt generators, man! It might be more likely that a new mom would almost *have* to go back to work to maintain those costs.
Men leave jobs all the time too, career choices, medical issues, lifestyle changes.
That 'maternal leaving never to be seen again' thing is corporate avoidance and ass-covering, termination/do-not-hire smoke blowing.
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Not if you account for all factors, iirc. If you look at women who are career-oriented and childless (i.e. like most men), you find that women make more for the same job.
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Also, most men are not childless. Men don't give birth to children, and aren't typically saddled with societal expectations for their primary care. Big difference, dude.
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Anyway, here's one article. I'm sure you can find others.
http://reason.com/archives/2010/08/19/the-truth-about-the-pay-gap
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is an excuse people use to not have real discussion about changing the status quot
documented pay gaps, sure, did those same self serving surveys also document experience? since most jobs pay scale up based on on knowledge and years doing it
that tends to close you pay gap argument some
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Not sure what you are saying here. The census? The IRS? To what do you refer? Data is hardly ever completely free of bias, deal with it.
Your other point seems rather silly. Women can and have easily obtained knowledge and experience in any particular field of their choice. Why do you assume this is not the case?
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No excuse for Alimoni
WHY should ANY man EVER pay to support a woman after she has left? The BS that women can't make as much money is crap, millions of women NEVER marry and are still making it, should some random guy be forced to supplement their income too?
Take it or leave it, if you want the guys money, then stay in the damn marriage.
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Now, obviously alimony does not make sense in all circumstances. It also doesn't make sense many times it is awarded. But there are times when it would make sense.
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How not surprising, one of our favorite trolls is a misogynist.
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70% reduction!?
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Yes!
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Alimony
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Two words...
'Nuff said.
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cabarete
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