Does It Makes Sense To Charge Kids & Their Parents With Libel For Online Bullying?
from the extreme-response dept
There's been lots of talk about what to do about online bullying -- even if the amount and impact of online bullying is often massively exaggerated. There have even been some attempts to outlaw online bullying or "cyberbullying" that seem to try to make it illegal to be a jerk online. These laws are of dubious legitimacy under the First Amendment.However, it appears that one family has taken a different path to go after some online bullies. After discovering that some classmates in school set up a fake Facebook profile for a girl, they sued the kids who set up the page and their parents for libel. The student had apparently asked both the school and the police to do something about the fake page -- and in both cases they were (correctly) told that they couldn't do anything. The school couldn't get involved with off-campus speech (correct) and the police noted that no criminal laws appeared to have been broken (also correct). They also asked Facebook to take down the page, which didn't happen. That's the one that surprises me a bit. Considering Facebook's insistence on "real names" and such, you would think the company would respond relatively quickly to accusations of a fake page.
That said, is libel really the most reasonable response? It does appear that some of the statements made on the page were pretty obnoxious, and could potentially meet the bar for libel, but it's difficult to see how such a lawsuit helps anything. It did get Facebook to delete the page, so perhaps that accomplished the goal. But I can't imagine that filing lawsuits against other students helps make one more accepted in school. The fact is that kids can be obnoxious brats -- and it sounds like the kids who set up this fake Facebook page fit that description. But does that really need to be settled in court? Furthermore, suing the parents of the bullies because they paid for the internet access the kids used seems like a particularly ridiculous claim. Bullying sucks, but taking kids and their parents to court over a stupid fake Facebook profile seems like overkill in response.
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If she did and the page wasn't taken down, it's absolutely appropriate.
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If I made a Mike Masnick profile and convinced a ton of people that I'm you, you'd probably have a case against me.
(I'm not talking about parody accounts that are obviously fake.)
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$5 says the suit is dismissed before too long.
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Suing the parents stands up to the bullying just fine and sounds like the parents did the right thing. Go parents!
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If the plaintiff gave the defendant parents an opportunity to fix the issue through non-legal matters, and was refused, that is EXACTLY what the defamation laws in this country are for.
libel is defined as a published false statement that is damaging to a person's reputation. - oxford american dictionary
cyber bullying is defined as the act of harassing someone online by sending or posting mean messages, usually anonymously. - dictionary.com
so unless the content of the fake profile is proven to be true(and given that its a FAKE profile... good luck with that) its a textbook libel case. one that will probably end up in legal textbooks in future years.
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people need to grow a pair
I grew up a pudgy, red haired geek, I got "bullied" and teased constantly, Did I cry to my parents every time it happened( or ever)....nope, because the fact was, even the popular kids got teased....everybody gets shit from somebody in school.
I really feel that learning to deal with assholes/jerks when I was a kid better prepared me for adult life, Among other things I learned to laugh off people insulting me and tying to goad me into a fight.
I learned to not care what others thought of me, and to give as good as I got, again everybody gets shit in school and sorry I have to point this out but in adult life you still have to deal with those kind of people.
once you learn to not care what others think of you, you find its quite freeing you nolonger get worked up over little things.
My advice to parents of kids being teased/bullied at school, teach your kids to grow thicker skin, to give as good as they get, it will better prepare them for life then if you try and shelter them so when they enter the real world they are shocked at how mean people are and endup coming home and crying over how somebody at work was mean to them.....
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That statement disturbs me very, very deeply.
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I get tired of this nanny state bullshit, and I am liberal on most things(but not A dem or repug), this coddling of people who have easily hurt feelings needs to end....
I think most of us likely grew up in public schools or even private schools where "bullying" (teasing) was a fact of life, and we didnt cry to our parents that "billy is making fun of me" we just delt with it and learned to adapt.
I was watching a video recently about "bullying" and 99% of it was teasing, not even what was called bullying when i was in school....no swirlies, no ganging up and cornering somebody to scare them...just teasing and stuff like getting hit with spitwads....(like that really hurts....)
if kids cant take that, its time to put them in diapers and baby mitts.....
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"I got my troll on at Techdirt"
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Being picked on in school is one thing. Having people do something that could cause you to not get jobs in the future and so on is a lot more than simple teasing.
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the fact is, any employer whos not a total moron will see the fake page and dismiss it either as being a kids page(shes 14, 7th grade, not like facebook will be a big deal by the time she enters the serious job market)
I have sat in on a few discussions about hiring where they talked about having looked athe persons myspace page, the funny thing is, for the most part, everybody dismissed the myspace page because, myspace is dead....as facebook will be once the next big thing comes out to replace it.
if it was 1. real, and 2. an adults page, I could see this as a valid case, but in this case, I think the girl just needs to ignore it, fact is, very few people will think its real once she makes it clear its not her, infact, its very likely the kids doing it would start to be looked on with contempt if she dealth with it in an adult manner, rather then freaking out and trying to get the cops/school to solve her problems for her.
our society looks at anything and everything as an excuse to sue or get somebody arrested/fired/expelled.....very childish if you ask me....
the kids doing it are not in the right, they are childish little pratts, but, again they are kids, best move she could make would be to make it clear(calmly) that its not her facebook page, and just say stuff like "ha ha very funny" when they put rude stuff up, the fun would go away and they would stop their nonsense if she didnt react in the way they desired(freaking out)
you ask how i know this, I have been on both sides, people harass me, so i would do it back, but only till it stopped being fun, when it stops being fun is when you nolonger get the reaction you desire out of the target.
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applicants' 'reputation'
the credit reporting folks are confused or habitual prevaricators.
their facts conflict with their facts.
so why would any employer refer to 'credit reports'?
i seem to be digressing, but a facebook-based 'reputation' is even "more worthless".
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What I find profoundly remarkable about this suit, and what leads me to believe this girls' parents are using it for teaching, is who they are not suing: the school, the police, Facebook, or anybody with serious money. In other words, how hard did they have to hammer on their lawyer that this whole thing was not about money?
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and if you watch some of the videos they use to talk about how horrible bullying is now days, its nothing compared to when I was in school(and likely when you where in school) its mostly verbal teasing and online teasing.
I would have been happy to have the level of teasing/harassment knocked down to that level when i was in school...honestly...
what I have to wonder is, hows this going to really help?
its very likely the girl will be shunned even more, for fear that if you make fun of her or upset her your family will get sued.
hows that gonna help her?
make her even more lonely and outcast?
I mean I feel for the girl, not only is she being made sport of, shes also letting it get to her and her parents clearly arent teaching her coping skills, instead they are teaching her to sue...
I see a future for this girl of sueing employers because they where "mean" to her...
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less real bullying now?
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we could encourage civilized behavior amongst adults and children.
this Reagan-era social fashion of offensive behavior has motivated most people to reject multi-unit housing. the majority of single-unit occupants aren't qualified to maintain (dislike performing maintenance, anyway) their housing. this incurs huge economic cost (there are other costs) of the politically correct culture of antagonism.
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But then, we just learned what a pirate apologist you are, so how can we trust your opinion on a totally unrelated subject? [Emoticon]
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Why do I instantly have an image of Eric in a Jack Sparrow costume wondering where the Rum has gone LOL
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after reading your blog on this, I agree to a point, but also, teen age boys(And girls even) talk alot of smack, 90+% of it is just that, taking smack, if you cant learn to deal with it, how are you going to deal with that really annoying boss or co-worker you runinto later....
I admit, your very unlikley to get anything close to the comments made by those teen boys in the adult world, BUT you can get things that are just as....offensive to an adult, tho veiled far more(in some ways, you gotta admit, teens and kids are far more honest and forthright then adults, rather then obfuscate their words, they just say what they are thinking, even if their language points out clear deficiencies in their vocabular education.
In many ways, I wish more people where like that, say what you mean, even if its blunt and rude...
but then again, i grew rhino/hippo skin, so that kinda thing dosnt bother me....had a guy call up yesterday and curse me out for 5 strait minutes becase we turned him over to collections on a 4 year old bill he refused to respond to....he got even madder when i started laughing at his tirade...
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high school *is* the adult world
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To me this one smacks of the parents of the children who made the page being part of the problem especially with the original parents reaching out to them.
Though when all you have left is a blunt instrument like defamation (which is costly to all) and you are trying to protect your own child, then you use everything at your disposal.
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American parents taking responsibility for the children's actions?
Nevar!!
/troll
I thought today's standards called for pawning off all parental obligations onto the school/"justice" systems...
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spanking= physical abuse.
grounding= social and mental abuse.
sitting kid in the corner= same as above.
you cant even scold your kid in public because somebody will call the cops.....
our society has become retarded......
IMHO the best fix for these problems would be to follow what Robert A. Heinlein puts down in starship troopers, for serious childhood infractions both the kid and parent get "Flogged" (like a kaining) in public, for minor but serious infractions, you get a spanking, even in school, I know when i was in elementary school that was still allowed, never done but the threat of it kept kids in line.
for most situations like this, you need to let the kids involved work things out on their own and encourage them to figure out solutions to their own problems, rather then bring the law into it....again I feel for this girl, shes going to endup being even more of an out cast then she apparently already is....
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Part of the trouble with physical solutions is there is always someone who abuses it.
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What happens when you hit a dog to teach it? It learns to hate and/or fear people. It may not bite you, but it is much more likely to bite the neighbor kid.
There are ways to be responsible without damaging the children involved.
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sitting kid in the corner= same as above.
"cite(!)" Find just one of those strange news (Florida faceeating is the new tree-TPing) outlier examples. I know this is not a norm. I've never heard of this. It looks derived from one of those fauxnews "perentill rites! soshelless union penshin teechur moral relitivismz are stopping me my god givvin rites to beeting my kid with lumbar!" tea tales.
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The one things about children I do understand is that they copy their surroundings so is either the parents or the community they are inserted in that is the problem.
Another problem is that once it gets to that point, you can't start over, that behavior is hardwired in their brains already and it would take a decade or more to change it to become the norm.
Here is what people teach to kids these days.
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/self_control.html
Don't pay attention to the instructions but the timeline, people know that education is something that happens over time and so every tip you get will be about how to do it from an early age for the start of the conditioning.
Yes those instructions could work, but why it fails most of the time?
It fails because kids copy the behavior of their parents or communities they are inserted in, if your mouth say one thing and your acts say another, acts are louder than words.
And here is the hard part, most people can't view their own flaws and they get angry at people who point those out, so they don't correct that and thus are unable to teach anything different to a child.
When a child constantly behaves badly that is a failure of society, the entire enviroment failed, so not only the parents should take responsibility by others too.
Would you like to be forced to watch everything others do?
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heres the thing when they where around they punished me when i deserved it and gave me accolades when i deserved it.
When I did something really stupid or really broke the rules, i got spanked(not beat, spanked theres a difference)
guess what, it worked, I also learned to stand up for myself and to let peoples stupidity and cruelty roll off me like watter off a ducks back.
the problem today is society dosnt want you to punish your kids but then is upset that kids have no idea of boundaries and rules, no self control.
again I agree, society is to blame, and its only going to get worse....because now even timeouts are being called abuse....
and nobody seems to want to teach their kids to have thick skin anymore.
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adults have always worked long hours. but modern jobs separate the parents from the kids.
even when daycare is nearby, i suspect "out of sight >> out of mind" causes less parental interaction.
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If the kids who did this are minors then parents are responsible for their actions in Georgia, at least up to $10,000 damage. That's how the parents got in there.
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Now for the meat and potatoes: Mike, you are the one who gets upset when people tack "on the internet" onto something and claim a patent. I get upset when people tack "on the internet" onto a crime, and expect it no longer to be a crime.
How does that go? Well, let's drop the technology for a second. If someone purchased a full page ad in a newspaper, represented themselves as someone else, and made false, misleading, dishonest, or nasty statements on that page, would they have not committed a crime? Would there not be libel here? Would it not create prejudice against the person in question?
Forget the "on the internet" and start paying attention to the reality. The whole thing makes much more sense.
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That's almost as convincing as "Mike, noone takes you seriously anyway" while shills constantly keep defending their corporate masters with their inane rants and whinings.
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Now for the meat and potatoes: Mike, you are the one who gets upset when people tack "on the internet" onto something and claim a patent. I get upset when people tack "on the internet" onto a crime, and expect it no longer to be a crime.
How does that go? Well, let's drop the technology for a second. If someone purchased a full page ad in a newspaper, represented themselves as someone else, and made false, misleading, dishonest, or nasty statements on that page, would they have not committed a crime? Would there not be libel here? Would it not create prejudice against the person in question?
Forget the "on the internet" and start paying attention to the reality. The whole thing makes much more sense.
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Sure the school could have done something!
This I don't agree with. The school could, and should, have handled this. Talk to the kids responsible, and if that doesn't work their parents.
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unless school resources are used or teachers are named, the school has no business in this, period.
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the fact is, theres no fix for the problems caused by people interacting with each other outside not letting them interact with anybody.
In cases like this, social justice is the best fix, the girl, if she had handled this correctly herself could have made to so that this wasnt fun for the kids doing it, she could have made it so that rather then her being the object of ridicule the ones making the posts where the subject of ridicule.
once you learn to not give a crap about other peoples opinion of you and their attempts to upset you, you gain a freedom and centering that can and will serve you well threw out out life.
once you learn to think logically about such things you can find ways to deal with idiots like the ones making fun of her that dont involve legal action or physical violance, but instead involve making them the object of scorn and ridicule.
when I was in school myspace was big(the facebook of its day) as where yahoo chat and some others where lots of people at the school hung out, back then if people harassed you online, you just delt with it, you didnt go running to the teacher or mommy/daddy, very few kids resorted to that when i was in HS, and those that did for the most part ended up with their parents telling them to grow thicker skin...only once did i ever see a parent threaten legal action, and it was over a LIE her own daughter was telling about being sexually harassed, when the full story came out, the girl(Who was trying to cause problems for a teacher and a slew of students) ended up being ostracized, she had no friends to speak of, nobody would even look at her or talk to her....even teachers ignored her...
social justice at work....
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How far does the schools responsibility and authority extend? If a student accesses Facebook from school using the school equipment and internet connection, clearly the school has authority. What if the access is from a students phone during lunch break? What if the student accesses Facebook from a phone while walking or riding home or to the local fast-food joint? The answer to these questions apply not just to bullying behavior but also in the same way to any sort of speech.
In addition to location, let's look at ownership of equipment as a factor in determining the schools authority.
Austin Carroll, the Indiana high school student who was expelled for a profane tweet did this from his home. He used a school issued laptop which was configured to use a school server as a proxy in accessing the internet. After logging in to the school website, which is the home page upon launching the browser, he had access to the internet which appeared to him exactly the same as just going through his local ISP connection. The school claims that their ownership of the laptop and forced routing through the school network gives them the authority to censor his speech as if he was physically at school. Is it enough ownership to claim authority if Austin had used the school laptop and avoided going through the school's network? Would the same logic apply if he used a school issued pencil to write an objectionable sentence? My feeling is schools should only get involved if speech occurs at school or a school sponsored function and, if applicable, using school owned equipment.
When a student is not at school he or she has them same free speech rights as anyone else (I am disregarding, for now, the parents say in the matter). There is no restriction on what people this speech is in reference to. They can talk about teachers, school officials, and other students. The school has no authority here even if the speech rises to libel or slander. The school can, of course, contact law enforcement or the parents playing the role of informer or counselor. Teachers do not have the same freedom, as they have a responsibility to maintain the privacy of students and are subject to restrictions that any other government employee would have.
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And since you put that "period" at the end there, obviously you are Right, and I am wrong. It's not like the school is the logical choice since that's where the kids meet, and because they are the ones who could most easily stop this madness. No, you said "period", so therefore the school has no business in this. I stand corrected.
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Psychopaths And Sociopaths
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very few people are true sociopaths or psychopaths, some are, and some carry that bully attidue into adulthood, where most loose it as they get older.
a couple good examples are people I went to HS with.
one was a guy who use to harass me endlessly and relentlessly, it didnt bother me, and i gave as good as i got, but he saw me one day in the parking lot at safeway(grocery store) and called my name and came over and apologized he was quite sincere and even took me out for lunch and we talked, had some laughs...hes turned into a good guy.
on the other hand there was this guy who use to do little dirty underhanded things to try and get people in trouble and who liked to bully people, He now works for his uncle at a local hardware/building supply store, he STILL tries to bully and intimidate people, the reason he works for uncle is that nobody else will hire him, hes been fired from every job hes had, he also has been in jail multi times for his actions....
his uncle and family are good people, hes just truely a sociopath(he knows what hes doing is wrong, just dosnt care that its wrong)
that said, i doubt these kids are really either, most likely they are just doing this to get attention, if that went away they would stop because it wouldnt be fun anymore...
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If we allow the general public this kind of court-room power, what's to stop the real Steve Jobs (or heirs) from suing the Fake Steve Jobs into financial ruin? You're trying to tell me the owner of every fake Twitter account is guilty of libel and should be sued accordingly?
Also, people are very quick to slap the 'bullying' label on any behavior they don't like that's directed at them. This does a disservice to actual bullying. Instead of working towards protecting vulnerable people from severe emotional and physical turmoil, we're dicking around in the court system because some bratty kids made a fake profile saying you smoke pot and hate black people. That's not bullying. It's called getting your balls busted and you need to go through it if you want to understand how to live in a country like the U.S..
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Maybe legislation for mandatory body slamming in response to bullying is necessary?
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1st offence, punish the kid,
2nd punish the kid, slap the parents,
3rd whack those parents down.
More to the point with this one it makes sense that parents should be accountable somehow, especially if they won't do anything about their child.
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punishment of any kid is viewed as some form of abuse.
spanking: physical abuse
grounding: social and mental abuse
taking away their tv/videogames: mental abuse
making them stand in the corner(or sit in the corner) mental abuse(And social abuse if anybody else sees it)
I mean, I agree, Parents should parent and should be able to punish their kids.....but when anything you do could lead to your kids being wards of the state and you being in jail.....
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Some children need more than just a time out. But god forbid you spank a child and the world comes down on the parents for child abuse.
But when society condones the police handcuffing six year olds because the school is not allowed to punish an unruly child then it becomes the providence of society to deal with bad kids.
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your not allowed to parent your children in this country anymore....you need to let them run a muck and do as they please if you dont want them becoming wards of the state and yourself becoming a guest of the gray bar hotel.
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Ree-Ree-Ree
Do your spelling teas satirize or parody leaders of the tea?
www.techdirt.com/articles/20120427/18143518693/does-it-makes-sense-to-charge-kids-their-parent s-with-libel-online-bullying.shtml?threaded=true#c243
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I bet she could even have gotten the school to announce it wasnt her real facebook page if it was as big an issue as all that.
shes being STUPID for suing if you ask me, this will just lead to her having LESS people willing to have anything to do with her.
heres an example from my own life a few years back.
we had a woman working at the place I worked, she seemed like a nice girl, kinda shy but polite and kind, she mostly took calls and did paperwork/filing, in an area of the company that was mostly women( I was tech support so i was around alot fixing printers and such)
she sued a coworker for sexual harassment because he had the gaul to point out that one of her tata's had slipped part way out of her bra, no, im not kidding that was the whole case, she also sued the company, she kept the job but was very upset NOBODY wanted to talk to or be around her without it being on the company audio/visual servileness system. and even then it was always a turse interaction.
none of us wanted to risk being sued, the company settled the case and part of the settlement was they couldnt fire her.....(i read it, it was a bad settlement but cheaper then fighting it in court)
she couldnt understand why nobody wanted anything to do with her....was very upset about it....
note: the guy she sued was not only one of the kindest nicest least sexist people you could ever hope to meet, he was also very very gay(zero interest in women)
all shes going to endup with is even less friends and more people talkin smack about her.....
yeah it was wrong for them to do this, and yes somebody could find it years from now, but guess what, most employers who look at these things will be far more willing to accept "that page is fake" if its in your attached cover letter or a simple note you attach.
also, very few employers I have worked for would take a jr.high blog/myspace/facebook page as anything but the rantings of a child....if it was an adults page or late highschool, that could be different, but. shes 14 and 7th grade, i really doubt anybody will care by the time she enters the work force.
and god help her when she enters the job market...she will be suing employers and coworkers left and right over being mean to her.
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More I am sure she did something to trigger this on the others, and depending on what it was she may not be so innocent either.
I don't think this has anything to do with courage, courage is when you know something bad could happen to you and you do it anyways, if you are faced with death but risk your life for something you want, there is no courage in using force others force to punish people you don't like, in that sense she is being as coward as others may have been to her.
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"She wore that dress, your honor" said the rapist. Completely understandable excuse.
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Analogy to rape
"Is filing rape charges really the most reasonable response? It does appear that the accused may have had sex with her against her will, and could potentially meet the bar for a rape charge, but it's difficult to see how such a charge helps anything. I can't imagine that filing charges against other people helps make her feel any better. The fact is that men can be violent -- and it sounds like the man who she is accusing of raping her fit that description. But does that really need to be settled in court?"
Maybe this will make things worse for her. Maybe it will make her less accepted at school. Maybe it will cost her family money. But it will teach her and everyone else the valuable lesson that bullies can and should be stood up to. And it will provide some semblance of justice.
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You're disgusting. I know all about rape, two of my sisters were raped as kids. To compare setting up a face FB page with rape...god, you need help.
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This is an excellent example of the problems with communication over the internet. The kids who set it up did not see how Alex Boston reacted emotionally when she saw the fake page. In person you can see if the other person is just a little upset, or bursts into tears. It's much easier to do something with no idea how the other person is responding. This isn't a flaw in the technology, but it does lend itself to hurt feelings and flamewars.
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again, I have delt with this kind of thing most of my life, kids are stupid and cruel, but, the thing is, acting that way isnt fun when you cant see the reaction.
wheres the motivation to keep going for months let alone years if the person dosnt react in a negative way?
again, its all about how you react to stuff like this, there are many ways to react to disarm the situation, to make it "not fun" for the people doing it, this isnt one of them, if anything this very likely will have the opposite effect, she will be even more ostracized and lonely.....because who wants to risk upsetting somebody and getting sued.
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So the bullies (and theoretically) their parents knew about this. It was an ongoing issue. The page was up for 11 months, despite repeated reports to Facebook (who only took it down after the lawsuit was filed). And at the very least the privacy setting were updated to keep Alex off and unaware of what was going on on the page. Sounds to me like they were trying to keep it out of the court and that didn't work.
All this came from the Boston lawyer who was on the radio this morning (q100 Atlanta).
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yes, it was idiotic and cruel of them, but, how she reacted to their actions is very likely why this kept up.
I feel for her, she let them get to her, she let them make her feel upset and angery, she let them drive her to do something that will very likely cause her to be even less popular among her fellow students....
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seems pretty close to me....thin skin and if she wins this(likely) she will have a sense of this being the best way to deal with people hurting her feelings/making fun of her.
sorry, but as somebody whos seen his share of job evaluations(for myself and others) I can tell you, some people get very upset over even minor admonishments to their performance, one guy threw his laptop threw a window when it was pointed out he spent to much time on the phone with some clients...(3hrs for a single client....a bit much...specially seeing he was sales....)
but hey, more power to her and you Danielle, if you think sueing people for being mean to you on the internet or at work is the best way to handle this stuff, have at it... and good luck tracking down all the people who ridicule and make fund of you online....
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Included should be the names of every neighbor, teacher and parent who let a children become a monster, noting what their roles in that outcome was.
We all are responsible for that crap, it is not only parents faults, in other countries parents are just as retarded as the average American and still they have less of this kind of behavior and the reason is simple, the community is the safety net, those little monsters weren't born that way probably rare are the true born monsters in this world the vast majority are manufactured by social norms and this is something that happens so often that it can't be attributed to chance this is a social problem that has grown to epidemic proportions and part of the problem is the law that is restraining or discouraging others from having a real role.
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You may not sue an employer but others have no problem doing it.
About the fake thing, well.
Depends, in a community where nobody knows who you are that can be a problem, in a community where everybody knows who you are nobody would care because they all know it was somebody trying to get at you or have fun.
Aside from that, the law here is also part of the problem, by enabling people to sue for anything and everything we get to the point where society cannot fulfill its role as a guide for behavior. You get dependent on a rigid system that can't and will never be able to act properly in all instances because it doesn't have the malleability to do so, and by shifting the role of enforcement from society to the government you discourage people from doing something about it, which means you are getting rid of the social safety net necessary to keep the behavior you so decry in check.
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I think the problem is Danielle dosnt understand that not everybody is like her, and many people, specially those raised to sue or report everything to the authorities are prone to doing just that any time somebody upsets them.
a friend of mine (showed him this topic) said it reminded him of his sister who grew up with their mother, any time anybody upsets her she calls the cops and files a police report.
Im not joking, she once did it on me for telling her to "grow up" when she was crying about somebody giving her the finger in traffic....(she was acting like a little kid who had his lolly taken away)
this action came about because their mother did the same thing and sued anybody who upset her, shes so well known in the town she raised his sister in that the cops and 911 operators know her voice.
she gets zero respect from the cops anymore, shes barred from entering many establishments in town(including walmart) all because shes got this sense of entitlement to legal protection from anything that could upset her....
his sister and mother have both also filed reports and complaints about books they didnt like being on shelves of book stores(harry potter for example)
nobody knows why moms that way, but I would guess she got the example from somebody she grew up around....
the fact is, once you teach somebody that "this is how you deal with XX situation" and that it works, they will use that as their first option rather then last.
I honestly expect this girl to sue anybody who truly upsets her IF she wins this case, because it will re-enforce her belief that the legal routs the best rout.
Oh another example of this kind of behavior is people like an aunt-in-law of mine who intentionally gets in car wrecks to collect the insurance money.....shes on wreck 18 or 19 now....why would she keep doing this and harming herself.....because it makes her money....
people who sue doctors for anything and everything...same deal once they win a case, they tend to file another one...then they are upset no doctors will see them anymore....
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Gotta call bull on this. No insurance company in the world would insure you if you're on wreck 18 or 19, no matter how fine the evidence is that it was totally not your fault.
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Im quite sure shes angery as hell and just wants revenge for somebody making sport of her.
something I have learned about women and had confirmed when talking with every woman i know, women are on average FAR FAR FAR more vindictive then men, they will remember a small slight for decades, where most guys will forget even major slites quite quickly.
I have never seen 2 women get in a fight then endup friends.....yet I have seen many cases of men/boys getting into knock down drag out fights, and endup friends....
I once watched a girl dump a 2lt of orange soda over a friends head, for something he did in jr.high...when she said what it was....i about fell over....
he had made the horrible mistake of teasing about the sound her flipflops made when she walked....
this was over a decade after we got out of highschool, and she was still holding a grudge....
thankfully with the soda, no real harm done, he was just wet and sticky...
also another note here, bullying use to be physical, the rest was harassment and teasing, I would put this in the extream end of the latter 2, she was not physically threatened or attacked, she was just made fun of...sure in a very mean spirited way...but hey, thats life....
I weep for the nation when we start passing laws that make it a crime to be a jackass online....because 98% of the people online are going to be felons.
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This Can Be Damaging Sooner Than You Think
Others have mentioned the potential damage something like this could do for future job prospects, but there is something even more near term. If you want to get into a prestigious middle or high school(private, charter, magnet and others) these days something like this page could damage your attempts.
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I was bullied during my first years of school. And going to the principal, or the parents (the cops were never involved in such things)was never a solution. The only thing that worked was laying the bully out cold. I risked getting injured since most bullies were bigger and meaner, but eventually I knocked one of them unconscious and most of it stopped, both verbal and physical.
Now for the caveat.
1 This happened on another continent, in a society that considers corporal punishment not only acceptable, but required. And fights among children or teenagers were common and ignored unless they involved weapons.
2 I live in Canada today, and what we have here is a Zero Tolerance policy. So a bully can just tease, and spread rumors, and you can't do anything about it. Hitting him/her results in charges of assault and the involvement of police and the legal system, and the bully is now the victim. Going to the authorities (parents, school) usually results in failure. Parents say: "not my child, he/she is not a bully", and the school says that there is no proof of bullying. So a kid has no help.
3 What exactly do the people that say grow a thicker skin expect her and the rest of society to do? Just take it, and teach the bully that they can do anything they want without repercussions? Teach them that as long as they can say "i never touched them" they can torment others and lie and cheat with impunity?
4 And to those saying that public shaming is an option I say Please. The bully craves attention, publicity. The bully wants to be known for what he/she does. They are not ashamed they are proud of making somebody's life miserable.
This is the society we live in today, a society where the only recourse is to suffer or sue. They tried to have the page down, they contacted the school, the police and FB. Nothing was done. Now it is time to use the only way left to them, the only way the bullies can be hurt and taught a lesson.
I really don't see what is wrong with that. Actually I see what is wrong with it, but around here there is no alternative.
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> against other students helps make one more
> accepted in school.
Sounds to me that the kid has pretty much given up on being accepted and just wants to stop the behavior and teach a lesson or two to her tormentors.
Seems reasonable to me, considering they tried every other alternative first.
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STOP IGNORING THAT KIDS ARE DYING FROM BULLYING TWO JUST RECENTLY!
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...That said, is libel really the most reasonable response?"
Sounds like reasoning didn't work. Libel was the last response, not the first.
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