Judge Says Student Can Sue School For Suspending Her After She Called A Fictional Cop A 'Pig'
from the peak-asinine dept
Sometimes the best move is to let something go. Kids will be kids, as the saying go. Thing is, kids may also be litigants, especially if you think your school administration position grants you the power to violate students' rights.
The mother of the 17-year-old girl filed the federal lawsuit this past February against the Hackettstown School District; teacher Kathleen Matlack; assistant principal Kevin O'Leary; and Jennifer Spukes, a Harassment, Intimidation, and Bullying specialist at the high school.
The suit contends the girl was discriminated against and her constitutional rights violated as the district accused the girl of bullying and then issued a one day in-school suspension while she attended the school in the 2016-2017 school year.
That's the tidied-up summary of the lawsuit, as composed by Lehigh Valley Live, which covered the case but couldn't be bothered to post the judge's ruling. So, here's the missing paperwork [PDF] and we'll get into the story behind this via the details contained in the federal judge's order.
This is only the build-up.
On March 8, 2017, K.C. was summoned to the office of Defendant Kevin O’Leary, Assistant Principal at Hackettstown High School. Apparently, K.C. and other students were overheard having a conversation about guns and violence, which O’Leary wished to address. O’Leary asked K.C. whether the conversation concerned the Black Lives Movement; when she told him that she was speaking about confrontations between police and African Americans, O’Leary responded, “all lives matter.” According to K.C., she understood this to mean that she was not to discuss the Black Lives Movement while in school. Apparently, during this conversation O’Leary also remarked that some individuals are lucky to have light-colored skin and pass as Caucasian, which K.C. took as an insult, being that she is bi-racial. However, K.C. was not disciplined for this incident.
This seems like pretty weird behavior from a school official, but not exactly the subject matter of a federal lawsuit. An administrator took a chance to connect with students discussing a serious issue that affects all of them and chose to grind his personal ax instead. A bad decision but not exactly a violation of K.C.'s rights.
THAT
During K.C.’s English class, students were reading the play, “Blood Brothers,” which has a scene where a corrupt police officer treats two suspects differently based on their economic status. As students were picking roles to play, K.C. volunteered to play the police officer, referring to the officer as “the pig.”
ESCALATED
Her English Teacher, Defendant Matlack, reprimanded her for her choice of word and K.C. apologized. This being said, J.G. received a phone call a half hour later from Principal Matthew Scanlon, who explained to her that K.C. was the subject of a Harassment, Intimidation, and Bullying (hereinafter, “HIB”) investigation…The basis of this investigation was K.C.’s use of the word “pig,” which may have offended a student in the class whose father is a police officer…
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Later that day, the school conducted an HIB investigation, which was attended by K.C., Defendant Jennifer Spuckes, an HIB Investigation specialist, and Defendant O’Leary. K.C. apparently recorded this meeting. In any event, during the meeting, K.C. expressed to Defendants Spuckes and O’Leary that use of the word “pig” did not reflect her view of law enforcement and claimed that the classmate who may have been offended by the statement was not present when she uttered the word. According to the Complaint, “Mr. O’Leary and Ms. Spuckes analogized the use of the term ‘pig’ to the use of the term ‘nigger’ and, later, the term ‘fag.” Apparently, both of them asked her how she would feel if someone called her by either name. Despite objecting to these slurs, Defendants O’Leary and Spuckes continued to utter them in front of her. The two also criticized K.C. for continuing to discuss the Black Lives Movement, which they compared to someone overhearing a sexually degrading conversation between two teachers.
Where do you even start? The bullshit "bullying" accusation? Well, the lawsuit states the student supposedly offended by this wasn't even in the room when the "pig" comment was made. K.C. apologized for referring to a fictional cop character as a "pig," even though there was no reason for her to do so.
From there, it's just an embarrassment of richly embarrassing -- if not downright insulting -- conversational tactics by a bunch of disciplinarians who apparently felt compelled to straighten out a gay, multiracial student by [checks notes] using the words "nigger" and "fag" in an entirely abhorrent analogy that presumes "cop" is a race or sexual orientation.
Also: Black Lives Matter is to "sexually-degrading conversation between two teachers" as Colin Kaepernick is to:
A: gumball machine
B: complete works of Proust
C: narcolepsy
D: deciduous
This atrocious trainwreck of judgment calls was followed by a one-day suspension. This, in turn, was followed by the lawsuit.
The defendants all moved to dismiss the lawsuit, arguing K.C. didn't have standing and/or failed to state a claim. The federal court disagrees, finding both offered defenses to be off base. K.C. has standing...
[C]ontrary to Defendants’ assertion, none of Plaintiff’s claims “arise under the school laws” of New Jersey. While the allegations relate to the school’s investigation into K.C.’s alleged bullying, the claims asserted arise under a federal statute, state law, United States Constitution, and the Constitution of the State of New Jersey.
… and has stated a plausible claim.
When reviewing the Complaint, the Court is satisfied, at this stage, that Plaintiffs “pig” comment may constitute protected speech that was allegedly wrongfully infringed. While Defendants contend that her punishment was based on complaints of bullying and the school’s overall concern for preventing disruptive behavior, there is nothing alleged in the Complaint to support same. Second, with regards to the Plaintiffs conversation surrounding the Black Lives Matter movement, it can hardly be argued that discussions involving political or social justice matters do not fall within the protections afforded under the First Amendment…
There were plenty of opportunities to handle this non-issue in a way that would have eliminated the possibility of a civil rights lawsuit. Anything from "doing nothing" to "doing anything but what was done" would have sufficed. But it sounds like these administrators have something against minorities and people who don't automatically assume cops are saints. And that might cost them in the long run.
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And they still feel the need to keep fighting
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Re: And they still feel the need to keep fighting
But what do we do about the rest of the overbearing asshats that are out of control in our schools? They are there to help them grow intellectually and otherwise, into their own person. Not mold them into some ideological image of themselves.
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We are living in dark times.
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'Offending others is terrible... unless we're doing it.'
Well, the lawsuit states the student supposedly offended by this wasn't even in the room when the "pig" comment was made.
Despite objecting to these slurs, Defendants O’Leary and Spuckes continued to utter them in front of her.
So offending someone who isn't even in the room(assuming they even were offended) is terrible, worthy of suspension, yet doing the same thing so someone's face is perfectly fine.
What lovely, grossly hypocritical, and hopefully soon to be jobless individuals.
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The teachers WERE correct in pointing out than it's no different from any of the other slurs they mentioned.
Then they had to go full frontal idiot.
A CASUAL mention of something like "Calling a police officer a "pig" is no different than calling a black person 'the N-world'" should have sufficed, and not required anything further.
That it DID go further makes me suspect the student kept doing so after being told to stop.
But lawsuits? Someone just HAD to get a lawyer involved.
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A CASUAL mention of something like "Calling a police officer a "pig" is no different than calling a black person 'the N-world'" should have sufficed, and not required anything further.
The comparison really isn't equivalent, as pointed out in the article. Only one of those groups you choose to be a member of, the other two you're stuck with like it or not, and I'm pretty sure that the historical background between the words and how they've been used is just a wee bit different in scope and severity.
That it DID go further makes me suspect the student kept doing so after being told to stop.
Or that they were a pair of hypocrites on a power-trip, punishing her for not being properly subservient. She might have used the word again. They did use the comparison words again.
Despite objecting to these slurs, Defendants O’Leary and Spuckes continued to utter them in front of her.
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It went sideways long before that.
No, not actually. Calling someone or something a pig (especially an actual pig) is not the same as calling someone a recognized racial slur. "Pig" is not a racial slur. Occasionally used as a derogatory descriptor, yes, racial slur, no.
That happened when they decided to open an HIB investigation, if not earlier.
No, nothing should have been said, period. It was a fictional character who was written as, ahem, "a pig". Calling him and his behavior as such should not have been offensive to anyone. Especially not the offended person who wasn't present in the room when it was uttered, and for which the student apologized.
Did you literally not read the article? First off, she did stop, second, she should never have been told to stop, in the first place.
Well yes, because calling a fictional character written as a pig, a pig, is First Amendment protected free speech. Reprimanding a student and suspending them for engaging in such protected speech is a violation of the student's First Amendment rights. You bet your ass they HAD to get a lawyer involved.
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As I noted above the comparison between the slurs is not an equal one. One of them is based upon something you choose, the other two are not. Treating them as equivalent doesn't really hold up.
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You do NOT have the right "not to be offended"...
There are plenty of good cops, but there is also an over-abundance of bad cops, who deserve to be called pigs - or worse.
The current TotUS (Troll of the United States) is one of the worst "offenders" because the Troll doesn't have an off switch of his Cheetoh-Faced-Shit-Gibbon Mouth.
Nobody's trying to force him to be quiet.
If the CFSGTotUS is allowed to write and say everything he says, then nobody in this country has any fucking reason to whine about a teenager calling a corrupt cop a pig.
Hell, I'd call them a pig, a fucking pig, a fucking criminal pig.
As far as the school administration goes, a hearty Fuck You and the dead horse you rode in on, is greatly in order.
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School pensions
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The cop in the story was a fucking pig. The story explicitly calls out that that pig treated two suspects differently on account of their economic status.
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What is more dehumanizing than referring to a person or group as a class of animal?
Wildly blown out of proportion by all sides.
It COULD have simply been solved even with "Don't call police 'pigs' in school".
If she'd continued to do so, the suspension would have been valid.
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What about the families of people in groups that slurs are applied to? They have no right to be insulted, or to "feel smaller" because those slurs are used? THEY didn't have the "choice" you seem to feel makes a difference.
And again, what if no members of the group referred to by slur are present? That makes it OK?
Slurs are dehumanizing and reflect the bias or ill-education of those who use them. Which doesn't make it impossible to be biased against law enforcement without calling them "pigs".
You simply can't have it both ways.
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The person who wasn't in the room would have been more offended at the teacher painting their parent's occupation in such sordid terms than with someone describing such a character as a pig.
On the other hand, the defendants compared this to a racial and a biological slur, both of which used to be applied to people just like the youth they were reprimanding.
The thing is, the parts I see as lawsuit material here are all the actions taken in school because of the pig comment, plus the suspension. The cornering of the student, while hurtful, insulting and just plain wrong, could have been corrected by the school board via some re-education of the principal and counselor and an apology to the student.
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So because there ARE members of minority groups that DO fit stereotypical slurs used to describe ALL of them, it's OK to use those slurs?
How do you know there's an overabundance of bad cops? Did someone poll every cop in the country?
For the most part, I've found cops to be just doing a job. Only rarely in the last half century have I come across truly bad ones. And those usually don't last long - they get shifted out because not the "good" cops, but the average, everyday, just doing my job cops can't stand them either. But it's Union job - TRY to actually fire one.
I've also found exactly the same to be true of most of the member of minority groups I've met and dealt with over the years. They're simply just PEOPLE.
No slurs required against an entire group for the actions of a few.
(Insert Moore's Law example here, if you just gotta say Nazi's)
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In one way I could count recent history as history made while I was alive. Then you might be younger and use that definition to disclaim my version. Another way to look at it, is in the last 100 years is recent, whereas in the last 50 years could be very recent, and last week, while destined to become history, is current news, while last month is recent news. Where does one put 10 years ago?
It is not only a matter of perspective, but a matter of respecting the perspective of others. If I was dead I would not care. Since I am alive, and lived through the 60's and beyond, the reference to cops as pigs is something more than just history. It is something I lived through, and to some level, believed.
Today, being older, more mature (which are not necessarily the same thing) I don't call cops pigs, but I do disrespect them more than my brethren did in the 60's because they give me reason to.
To the good cops out there, know that I value you, but disdain your failure to out the bad ones, no matter what the cost.
Now, take out the age thingy and put these words in the mouth of a high school student expressing their concern over police brutality in recent weeks, months, years and tell us where those administrators have anything to yabber about.
Sorry, only some of that was directed at you Bruce C.
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How about stop being a pussy?
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The teachers and administrators are not there to decide how one thinks. They are there to aid in learning. In some respects they can only aid in the learning that is part of the curriculum prescribed by the school district. There should be no aiding in learning about ideology, other than that ideology exists and here are some examples. They should not be teaching 'an ideology'.
If the teacher thought the student could have been more respectful, then maybe they should have had a conversation with the parents. Beyond that, unless rules are actually broken. they should piss up tree while lying under it.
Slurs are dehumanizing, so blame the English teachers for failing to give the students sufficient vocabulary to express themselves (with denigration or not is not the point) with more appropriate disapprobation.
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No, I'm not, I'm saying the 'calling cops 'pigs' is equal to calling blacks and homosexuals 'niggers' and 'fags' respectively' argument is compete garbage.
One of those you choose to be. Two of those you don't.
Two of those have a much nastier history attached to them, one of them doesn't.
All of them might be insulting, but two of them are vastly worst than the third.
As for using the word and your objection to it, I don't bother with 'pig' myself when I refer to corrupt cops(fictional or otherwise), as I prefer titles like 'thug' instead, which I can't help but wonder if you also object to.
I also try to refrain from applying that label broadly(though I'll use 'corrupt' freely for reasons I've noted before, but which can be listed in tl;dr version as the standard 'A good cop who covers for a bad cop isn't a good cop'), and would object to people who do so even as I can easily understand why they would do so, though I have no problem with using it on a case-by-case basis because in those cases the one I'm using the slur against earned it by their actions.
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if the shoe fits
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Sexual orientation is a choice? Well damn, in that case when did you choose to be straight? At what point in your life did you decide, 'You know, I'm tired of being asexual, not being interested in or attracted to either gender, I think from this day forth I'll be attracted to [whatever gender you are not].' How long did it take you to make the choice, and what factors went into the decision?
Also under that model how monumentally stupid are those kids who choose to be gay in situations where it could get them harassed, bullied and/or kicked out of their houses, didn't they know they could just choose to be straight and avoid all that?
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So long as it's not done to excess I don't really see it as much different than putting certain words italics or bold, as just another way to emphasize certain words or points.
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hmmm...
Having some asshole on the internet claim that slurs rooted in decades or centuries of marginalization, harassment, and legal violation of human rights for members of your race or sexual orientation - violations that continue to this very day and are often reinforced by social norms - are equivalent to name-calling toward the very people in positions of power that marginalize, harass, and violate people of your race or sexual orientaton?
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Take it easy. Take a look at his profile. Bamboo Harvester has been a respected member of this community for quite a while now. He might be a lawyer, but if not his comments about the law have been regarded respectfully and sometimes as insightful. That there are issues with his point of view on this issue does not mean he is some Internet asshole. It means that he has some issues with points of view expressed by others here. I may think he is wrong, and others might think he is wrong, but there may be others still who agree with him.
Calling him an asshole is not the same as calling cops pigs. One is fairly generic, the other is personal. Many of my generation called cops pigs. If it was or is an accurate description is a matter of perspective (see my comments elsewhere on this page), but none of the references made today were personal, nor was the high school student whom the article was about.
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I'll bite.
In what way is a slur directed at a person's profession the same as a slur directed at a person's race or sexual orientation?
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I mean, if we wanna go full Godwin on this shit, yeah, I'm perfectly comfortable with people using slurs when referring to nazis. Or child molesters. Or any number of other reductio ad absurdum examples I could conceivably think of.
I'm not saying police are equivalent to either of those groups (that's not how a reductio ad absurdum works), and I wouldn't personally refer to them as "pigs". I would, however, note that they have badges, guns, are legally allowed to use force, and indeed there's pretty substantial recent evidence indicating that if they choose to use excessive force, they rarely face consequences for doing so. If you believe that this somehow makes them equivalent to historically opressed minority groups, then you really haven't thought this through.
You've got a decent point, buried in there, that dehumanizing language is harmful; I think it would have been perfectly reasonable for the teacher to say "Don't do that." I don't think it was worth a trip to the office. And no, it's not remotely equivalent to directing a slur at someone's race or sexual orientation.
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I…I’m sorry, but when, exactly, did using racial slurs in a derogatory context become illegal?
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If being gay were a choice, no one would choose to be gay. Who would actively and knowingly choose to be part of a denigrated and historically marginalized minority that regularly has people call for (and sometimes act on calls for) violence only because they exist?
And by the by, as someone who identifies as bisexual (and queer, interchangably), I can tell you from my experience in figuring out my own sexual orientation that it is not a choice.
“Conversion ‘therapy’ ” is a fraud—a form of psychological torture inflicted upon vulnerable people who are driven to undergo said torture out of a desire (either their own or someone else’s) to be “normal”. Anyone who claims to be an “ex-gay” is deluding themselves.
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Did you know that Black people cannot remove their skin after a long day at work⸮
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I would add, this isn't Bamboo Harvester's normal discourse, and (to him) if something is going on there is no need to tell us about it, but there is also no need to take it out here.
Usually I look forward to reading Bamboo Harvester's comments. Not today. Chill! Take a pill. Whatever works for you. It takes more speech to correct inequities in speech.
If your trying to correct the speech of the high school student, you are way past time. If you are trying to correct us in our speech (over this issue) then tell us what the issue is where you think we have gone overboard. It's not clear yet simply because references to police officers is just not the same as race, religion, or sexual orientation or any of the other legally exempted traits. I don't think we have, but it appears you think differently.
Without attacking, tell us where.
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This is what I get for not proofreading.
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"Stupid..."
Kudos, that's a truly inspired name it. :)
--dg100
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Which reiterates the point that English teachers may be failing their students in the ability to verbally send disparaging messages without violating anyone's rights or feelz.
Not that sending disparaging messages is a good thing. There is the opposite tactic of praising those portions of an opponents position that actually benefit their opposition. That takes critical thinking. Something not in an English teachers purview, nor in any high school curriculum that I know of (whoa do I wish that were different).
Eliminating institutional hatred is a different discussion, though there might be some in the defendants in this case.
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The bothersome one here is that apparently a lot of the comment think it's just fine to use slurs to define one group but not others.
I've got no bias towards or against cops. Or blacks, or Muslims, or ... I could go on, I can't think of a single group I'd judge by a stereotypical slur. Like I said, they're all just PEOPLE.
And if you've got enough brains to tie your own shoes, you'll realize that the TRUE stereotype is... MOST people are jerks.
I remember when everyone called cops "pigs" as well. Cops didn't like it then, they don't like it now.
As to them "choosing" the profession being somehow a way of making it OK to cast slurs at them, I simply can't fathom. Cops are a necessary evil.
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By saying that the slurs are "reinforced by social NORMS", you've just declared the people they're directed against as ABNORMAL.
Look, this is very simple: If you approve of the use of ANY slur against ANY group, you haven't got a leg to stand on when someone uses a slur against any OTHER group.
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Are you referring to female genitalia? In that case, you're committing a slur against women by claiming my statement isn't something any Real Man would say.
And, I have to admit that I'd hit the Funny button half a dozen times if I could for such an apt reply to my comment. :)
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They're not limited to race or sexual orientation. Any body that can be defined as a "group" can have slurs directed against it.
All of which are offensive. Does it matter if slurs against people of African descent have been around longer than those against Lesbians? Or vice versa? Is one "worse" than the other?
Philosophy aside, public schools have rules against "offensive speech", same as they did when I was a student in them back in the sixties. Break the rule, earn a suspension. Nobody argued about it (other than to deny they used the word).
In this one particular case, as I mentioned earlier, a "warning" of "Please don't refer to police as pigs" SHOULD have settled the matter.
One person thinks I didn't read the entire article because I said that I *suspected* the kid kept on doing it, while the article says the teachers kept repeating other slurs.
The article tells only one side of the story - HERS.
While my teenage years are lost in the mists of time, I raised two daughters. I know all about the OTHER side of the story that eventually comes to light.
This event escalated FAST to ridiculous levels. That rarely happens when only one side is pushing it.
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Can we agree that insulting people is bad? We shouldn't do it?
If the answer to that is "no", then I can't explain in a manner that will be understood.
There can't be a degree of "worse" when talking about a slur - it's an insult, it's dehumanizing, and it's meant to make a member of the insulted group feel smaller.
What the group actually IS doesn't effect that. It's a slur.
It's the double standard on this that bugs me. If you'll use slurs to describe one group, what's your logic behind other people using other slurs to describe another group?
Yeah, some cops are horrible. So are some Muslims. So are some Inuit. So are some waitresses.
But it's ok to insult the cop with a slur but not the Muslim, Inuit, or Waitress?
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If you were to denigrate someone using a slur aimed at them for who they are, you would merely be insulting them. (Granted, it would be a hell of an insult. But still.) If you were to discriminate against that same someone based on who they are, you would be doing far more than insulting them—you would be denying them a chance to participate in the public sphere.
Denigration can lead to discrimination, but the two are not inextricably linked to one another. (Anti-gay business owners can discriminate against gay people without saying anti-gay slurs, after all.) So long as the denigration does not happen alongside any other illegal act (including calls for violence), that insult is legally protected speech, no matter how distasteful or offensive it may be to you or I.
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If a police officer does not want to be called “pig”, they can stop being a cop whenever they want. The same cannot be said for Black people, gay people, women, or any other group of people who have been marginalized just for who they are.
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Cops can stop being cops whenever they want. A person with Middle Eastern heritage cannot take that heritage off like a uniform when they clock out of work or go on vacation. A gay person cannot stop being gay when they get called “faggot” by a mouthbreathing, backwards-ass moron.
A slur used against a profession can only be insulting to people who are in that profession. Last time I checked, no one was going around conscripting people into a local police force against their will. The profession of police officer—like all other professions, and unlike inherited/inherent human traits—is a choice.
Insulting people is not a good thing, in any instance. But if you really think a cop being called “pig” is even remotely on the same level as the N-word…well, there’s really no nice way to say this, so I’ll just say it: Honey, you’re fucked up.
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Society continues to view these things as abnormal, yes. That is why they're still marginalized. That's not very hard to grasp.
Also worth noting: I don't have to approve of an insult in order to recognize that you're painting a massive, blaring, horrible false dichotomy here.
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When someone acts like an asshole, I'm gonna call 'em an asshole. Sorry.
Doesn't mean he's always an asshole, or has to continue to be an asshole, just means that he's acting like an asshole by equating racial and homophobic slurs to calling cops "pigs."
Also, it doesn't matter how personal an insult is; what matters is where the power lies. Calling cops pigs isn't reinforcing marginalization because cops aren't marginalized.
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I'd argue that it's also more important that "pig" doesn't have a centuries-long history of oppression and marginalization behind it, isn't explicitly meant to enforce marginalization, and isn't, in essence, "punching down" at the person the insult is used against.
It's not just that police can stop being police if they want to; it's also that they're in a position of power.
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I would not say it, but at the same time I am not offended by it under very very very VERY specific instances. Rush Hour and Chocolate Sundae Comedy are two prime examples of who can and cannot say it under said circumstances. (In general, just don't)
As to the admins just casually tossing it out, I find that MORE offensive than the actual slur itself.
The problem then becomes BLM vs ALM. All lives matter should be a given, but.... that's not what BLM is about (even I know that). When was the last time you even heard of a Black gang member getting paid vacation for a drive-by? When was the last time an LEO got a harsher punishment for Purgery against the court under oath?
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Gay people can stop being gay. Just dress normal, walk normal, quit swinging your ass and eyeballing every pretty man that saunters by, and quit getting excited by the imaginary smell of an asshole. Control your sexual desires and hang around with women, and let nature take it’s course. There. You’re not gay. Give it a try, it’s not so bad.
Admittedly, if you are black AND gay, it might take a very concerted effort. Maybe, in addition to cleaning up your act and keeping your nose out of assholes, becoming a policeman and hanging out with other pillars of society might make it easier. Maybe a soldier, that could help, too. Enroll in the marines and take a vacation break in Thailand. There you go, not gay OR black anymore.
Or not, who cares? Police are not pigs, and calling people names first denigrates yourself. It’s your choice to make yourself look bad.
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Wow. Racism, homophobia, and racist homophobia. This is a bigotry trifecta! (Throw in some sexism and I bet you’d get a free sundae at the next Klan meeting.)
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They are instead fixated on sexual acts, and the only partners they can find for their ravenous sexual appetites are other other similarly fixated men. They just have no self control, and trade in what normal people would consider normal lives for lives with more frequent sexual acts and less frequent acts of giving real love and tenderness, as happens between normal men and women.
That is, they act the way they want to act, and they are getting what they think they want. They never experience the challenge of keeping a mate of the opposite sex interested, because they only care about one thing. Which is fine, to each their own. But they don’t HAVE to act this way, the just ENJOY acting this way. They’re just not normal people.
Read the Bible, it spells it all out in detail.
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I don’t think I’m wrong about this, I took quite a large survey. Other men are just easier sexual targets than women, women are tough. They pretty much rule the world, with 50% of all the property, and 100% of all the pussy. Women. Can’t live without ‘em.
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The fact that you repeatedly refer to gay people as “homosexuals”—as if to remain clinically detached from the idea that they are people—tells me that you have not, in fact, met a lot of gay people in your life.
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The same goes for anti-White slurs such as “cracker”: Yeah, they’re insults based on race, but they’re not as powerful as slurs against people of color because White people, as a racial group, have never been marginalized in American society.
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Cool bigoted generalizations about an entire marginalized group of people, bro.
How much of the Bible do you believe in, and how much of that do you take completely literally?
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I can't even bring myself to care about whose story is whose or what the legal situation is or whether slurs about jobs are different than slurs about race, when it's abundantly clear that these so-called educators should never have been allowed near a school. Frankly, the school deserves whatever it gets for even entertaining the idea of hiring these people.
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It also disrupts assignments and exams for the student. (Especially when on paper, some teachers still refuse to make online assignments/tests). This means either it takes away time devoted to another assignment or uses time after school to make it up.
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If that wasn't the case, the teacher would have gone over that information. Meaning the student likely wouldn't have said it.
In an english class students are outright taught to read between the lines and look at those sorts of things, to the point of it being a good portion (if not all) of the final exams.
So a student is logicly being punished due to the teacher failing to do their job.
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Wanna play the bash people with Religion game? Fine then...
The Bible and Christianity as a whole tends to promote the idea that god is kind to all and that those who follow him should do the same. The idea that people should be kind and generous even to those they don't agree with, so others may see the influence of god within them.
So tell us then why some Christians act so hostile to those of other religions or sexual orientations? Instead of kindness they receive anger; belittlement; abuse of all forms; among other negative responses.
By failing to follow God's ideals of kindness, those same Christians fail to show god's influence. In fact, they even turn others away.
Given that knowledge, why are some christians so eager to turn their back on their own God's teachings?
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Answer several questions for me then.
Why are women oppressed in several countries even today?
Do you not acknowledge or respect transgender people?
Why is the duluth model still used?
Also, You talked about how overly sexual and depraved gay people then decided to sexualise women yourself. Pot meet Kettle.
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"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
Clearly Shakespeare was wrong, cause everything about this surely stinks.
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I acknowledge transgender people.
I don’t know what the Duluth model is.
I don’t know why there are women only train cars, maybe safety.
To court and sustain a relationship with a woman, a man must sacrifice, which is the basis of love. That was my point.
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Women have the right to feel slightly disgusted towards men who make unwanted sexual advances. No one would dispute that basic right. Men feel disgusted by homosexuals that make unwanted sexual advances too. For the most part, homosexual make sexual advances all too frequently, towards other men. Yuck. I don’t like it, other men don’t like it, we feel slightly disgusted by it, just like women do.
That does not make us homophobic - it is a normal reaction to an unwanted sexual advance, by either men or women towards either men or women. Not homophobic at all. Just a normal response to something that we are not interested in (at all).
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A straight man can choose to fellate another man, but the act alone does not turn that straight man into a gay one. And besides, if being gay is a choice, so is being straight, but the only gay people who have chosen to “act straight” are ones who were either hiding in the closet or the victims of “conversion ‘therapy’ ”.
And since you seem to want a Bible fight…
…well, The Old Testament says all of the following acts warrant some kind of punishment, up to and including the death penalty:
Lying about virginity (Deuteronomy 22:20-21) [This one applies to girls who still live in their fathers' homes, lie about their virginity, and present themselves to their husband as a virgin. The accused is guilty until proved innocent, by the way.]
Being one of the majority of women who don’t bleed when losing their virginity (Deuteronomy 22:20–21) [If she doesn’t bleed when she has sex for the first time, she has committed a crime for which she can be put to death.]
If an engaged female virgin, being raped in a city (Deuteronomy 22:23-27) [Read that again: The woman is considered a criminal worthy of the death penalty for something that happened to her, not something she did. If she is raped in a field, however, she escapes punishment because no one would have heard her screams. Yeah…]
Having sex with a woman who is menstruating (Leviticus 20:18) [“Did you have sex with a woman on her period? You get to literally go meet God!”]
Eating anything that mixes meat and dairy (Exodus 23:19) [Eating that cheeseburger last week did not make God happy.]
Eating fat (Leviticus 3:17) […yeah, good luck avoiding this “crime” these days.]
Eating pork (Leviticus 11:7–8) [This is avoidable, yes, but damn does bacon taste good.]
Eating aquatic creatures lacking fins or scales (Deuteronomy 14:9-10) [You can eat seafood so long as you do not eat shrimp, crab, lobster, clams, or mussels. Eating any of those gets you booked on a direct trip to Hell, you dirty sinner.]
Eating any meat not killed according to the Kosher practice (Deuteronomy 12:21) [You better know a Jewish butcher.]
Being a male who is not circumcised (Genesis 17:14) [“If his dick has foreskin, send him to Satan! …okay the rhyme needs some work, but the foundation is there!”]
Trying to convert people to another religion (Deuteronomy 13:1-11, Deuteronomy 18:20) [This applies to people who try to preach any other religion. Trying to convert people into Christianity regardless of their religion is apparently fine and dandy, though.]
Blaspheming (Leviticus 24:14-16,23) [Make a joke about God and it will be the last joke you ever make.]
Breaking the Sabbath (Exodus 31:14, Numbers 15:32-36) [Doesn’t matter if you think of Saturday or Sunday as the Sabbath—if you break the Sabbath for any reason, you’re going to Hell.]
Being a town that believes in another, non-YHWH god (Deuteronomy 13:12-15) [The entire town is murdered, its animals are killed, the town itself is burned down, and the people who do believe in that other god are burned as well.]
Performing any work on the Sabbath (Exodus 20:10) [You might want to see if you can get Saturday/Sunday off.]
Ignoring the judgment of a judge or a priest (Deuteronomy 17:8-13) [These days, ignoring a judge gets you jail time/fines, while ignoring a priest gets you a stern lecture from the pulpit. Back then, both got you killed.]
Cursing your parents (Exodus 21:17, Leviticus 20:9) [“Did you just call me a ‘bitch’, young man? I brought you into this world and the Bible says I can take you out of it!”]
Wearing clothing woven of more than one kind of cloth (Leviticus 19:19) [Wearing damn near any modern clothing would be cause for punishment.]
And before you claim that the New Testament undoes all those laws: Excluding certain episodes that claim he interpreted laws in a relaxed way (e.g., the Sabbath working law), Jesus never explicitly said the old laws were invalid. Dispensations from following them largely came as a result of the spread of Christianity to non-Jews by Paul of Tarsus. Jesus even endorses Mosaic Law in Matthew 5:18, where he said, "For truly I tell you, until heaven and earth disappear, not the smallest letter, not the least stroke of a pen, will by any means disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished."
So, uh…how many of those acts that I listed above do you believe should be worthy of any kind of punishment, let alone the death penalty?
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How do you know, with the absolute certainty of God, that every homosexual in the world prefers to have sex on a frequent basis? How do you define “frequent” in this context? What do you consider “sex” in this context?
…this really makes you sound like you think gay men are rapists. I hope that was not your intent.
I notice that you keep referring to straight men as “men” and gay men as “homosexuals”. How does it feel to have someone point out that the way you talk about gay men and homosexuality indicates how you think of gay men as subhuman?
As for the “homosexual advances” bit: Hold onto that thought…
Th…they’re gay men. What the hell did you expect them to do, go up to women and offer them a free muff dive? (And again: Do not think your “men”/“homosexual” dichotomy has gone unnoticed.)
You can refuse a gay man’s sexual advances without acting like that gay man flirtng with you is akin to getting severe food poisoning or being forced to watch The Room on 24-hour repeat. You can just say “I’m straight” to the guy; if he keeps hitting on you/harassing you, you can go find someone to help you—preferably without violence.
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You deserve no credit, and you will receive none, just because you displayed basic human respect for other people.
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There is nothing wrong with putting people on notice, men and women, gay and straight, that the vast majority of people do not want sexual advances from anyone, and if they do, they will make it very clear first. Unwanted sexual advances deserve no respect, and often, direct action to make the point clear is helpful to everyone including the violator.
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What a weird world view, and I think, likely disingenuous.
Gay people like Gay sex, that’s why they’re Gay. I have never met a Gay person that was not in it for the Gay sex.
Not once, ever.
And I never met a gay puppet who does not exist below the waist. Oh wait, I think Gutfeld had one this week.
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Why have you seen so many closet cases? What exactly is a “closet case”? Or is this just meaningless driven from a moron?
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What?
The Bible is a roadmap to live a life you can be proud of, and so that you can die with the certainty that you have done your best in every way possible. If you have that certainty, then God will look into your soul and see it as surely as the light of day.
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<quote>has a scene where a corrupt police officer treats two suspects differently</quote>
The girl called the character, a corrupt cop, a pig.
Corrupt cop = pig ... Hell yes, and a lot worse.
I know of several locations, in and around St. Louis, where every "township" (not town, not city, but township) has it's own police department so that they can get a cut of the fines.
They alternate speed-limits 25 to 35, to 20, to 45, to 15, every other block.
Once a person is pulled over, for either speeding, or another infraction, and ticketed, a message goes out down the line.
The person ticketed, trying to adjust their speed every other minute or less, usually ends up with multiple tickets. This is especially true if it is for something like a fix-it-ticket - like a tail-light or head-light out.
I personally ran across a town police chief who constantly covered his wife who habitually stole money from the register depending on whether or not the person making the purchase asked for a receipt. I was one of the people caught up by the wife's actions after not asking for my receipt.
Thankfully, being friends with the County Sheriff - who was one of the good cops, as well as one of the Sergeants of the police force, under the corrupt Chief, we ended up getting the Chief and his wife placed behind bars for several years.
So yeah, after personally knowing a handful of cops and finding 1 out of 5 to be corrupt, would allow for 20% corrupt to be claimed, but I doubt that it is that high.
But even 1 in 10, or 1 in 100 is too many. Hell 1 in a million is too many.
As long as there is even one bad cop within our country, they will continue to be derided, made fun of, called out for being the pig they are.
Why? Because even if there was only 1 bad cop in the entire country, all of the other cops that serve with that bad cop, do nothing, absolutely nothing to end that bad cop's career in law enforcement.
That places those otherwise good cops in the same boat as the bad cop. Guilt by association. In fact, one could say they were co-conspirators for any crime(s) committed by the "bad cop" because they didn't take action to reign in the bad cop's behavior.
Add in the lovely first amendment, and yeah, I'll call bad cops pigs, I'll call them worse than pigs and there's not a damned thing you can say that will change my mind about that.
As I keep saying, nobody has the right "not to be offended". So fuck the corrupt pigs, and fuck you for coming to the defense of the corrupt pigs.
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While at the same time, they do not have to be evil - they simply like to be.
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Go back to the list of actions prohibited by the Bible that I posted earlier. Read all of them. Other than the prohibition against not following the judgment of a judge and the rules that pertain exclusively to women, how many of those Biblical laws—none of which were explicitly rescinded by Jesus—do I need to follow so I can “live a life [I] can be proud of” and avoid going to Hell?
The Bible is not the inerrant word of an omniscient deity (or his demigod son). It is a collection of stories by multiple authors who existed centuries ago and lacked the scientific knowledge we have now (hence why the Bible suggests that the sun revolves around a flat Earth). The Bible presents rules and laws for living a “good life”, but primarily presents punishments for breaking those rules/laws instead of talking about the actual benefits of following them. (The prohibition on shrimp from Deuteronomy, for example, says nothing about why eating shrimp is “unclean”.) All of those rules were made and upheld to keep the rank-and-file believers in line so none of them would dare to (publicly) question Christian dogma.
You keep implying that the Bible prohibits gay men{1} from having sex with each other. I have a few questions, then:
If two asexual gay people enter into a committed romantic relationship with one another and never once have any kind of sex, what have those people done wrong in the eyes of God?
If we are all made in the image of God, and God has a plan for us all, and God loves all His children equally, for what reason would He even care about two gay people (out of seven billion people in general) having sex with each other?
If being gay is as much of a choice as what to eat for breakfast (as you keep implying), and being gay is determined by participation in gay sex acts (as you keep implying), and simply being gay risks divine punishment from God in Heaven (as well as violent punishment from people on Earth), what rational person would ever choose to be gay?
Corollary to the above question: If a straight man is raped by another straight man or a gay woman is raped by a straight man, what does that say about the sexual orientation of the victims?
What do you believe can turn a gay person straight, and vice versa?
What makes the social life/the sexual activity of a gay person something you need to worry about if it does not personally affect your life?
I expect a smug deflection and more religious prattle that you hope helps you avoid having to confront your implicit (and explicit) bigotry. Feel free to prove me wrong.
{1} — In my experience, whenever the subject of homosexuality comes up, especially in a discussion among men, that discussion tends to exclude gay women. Funny how that works.
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One took a vow of Celibacy for religious reasons.
Another is asexual and repulsed by the idea of sex with any gender.
I know you don't see names and faces to those people, and that's the point. You simply turn your idea of gay people into a picture frame ready for any face you want to put there... but not all pictures will fit that frame.
So, please toss the frame aside and actually take a look at the photos.
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Please stop feeding the troll.
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Please stop feeding the troll. Dude's obviously just fucking around.
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The closet is a metaphor: you can't see what's inside if it's closed.
Sometimes gay people try to hide anything associated with that part of themselves. They let it out of that closet when they feel they are ready to face whatever reaction it may bring.
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Black butt hurt is not any more "holy" than anyone else's.
Their historic suffering is no excuse for you being a jackass.
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Could it be this simple?
So offending someone who is white is terrible, worthy of suspension, yet doing the same thing so someone who is black is perfectly fine.
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Ugghhhhh.
Engaging with you goes against my better judgement, but I will make one attempt; if you listen, you might learn something.
For starters, cotton slavery wasn't "500 years ago." The 13th Amendment was ratified on December 6th, 1865; less that two hundred years ago.
Furthermore, that was not the end of legal discrimination against african-americans. That continued (look up Jim Crow laws) until at least 1964, when the Civil Right act was passed; you'll note that, rather than 500 years ago, that's closer to fifty, and there are indeed african americans who lived before the Civil Rights Act and are still alive today.
So, when that passed, we all ended up on equal standing, right? Obviously not. Excluding for the sake of argument continuing non-legal discrimination (which literally any sociological study on race will point out exists to this very day), we have to take a look and where this series of racial inequities left african american communities.
Imagine for a moment two people - one from a very wealthy family, and one from a very poor one. The wealthy family can afford to live in a good neighborhood, send their child to good schools, pay for after school activities and extra tutoring if necessary, set aside money for a good college; the poor family lives where they live because they can't afford to move, sends their child to whatever school will take them, can't afford exracurriculars that aren't free or extra help for their child if they struggle, and short of a scholarship or massive student debt, that child is not going to college.
There is this myth about pullig yourself uo by your bootstraps, but real-world economics has no sympathy; the far greater chance is that the child who grew up in poverty will be stuck there, as will their children, and theirs, and on down the line until someone manages to break the chain. This, incidentally, is what social reform programs try to do: to break the chain, to give these folks a hand up out of poverty - to give them bootstraps they can't afford so they can pull themselves up by them.
Slavery, Jim Crow era segregation and ghettoization,.and continuing discrimination have left many if not most african american families in that sort of poverty, in the neighborhoods they can't escape, living from paycheck to paycheck from jobs that don't pay what they need to live, sending kids to schools that get less funding because the students don't perform well on tests because the school doesn't get enough funding; they're trapped in a system engineered half a century ago to keep them down, a system we still haven't fixed, because people like you are convinced that so long as they aren't being whipped and picking cotton, they're not "really" oppressed.
Read a fucking book.
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Okay, I have a parse error here, and I think it comes down to incompatible definitions. What definition of "asexual" are you using?
As I understand the terms, "asexual" means "not sexually attracted to anyone or anything" (and/or "possessed of no sex drive or other sexual impulses whatsoever", which I think would be a superset of the other), and "gay" as applied to sexuality means "sexually attracted to persons of the same gender".
Since being simultaneously attracted to the same gender and to no one at all would be contradictory and therefore impossible, I infer that you must be using a different definition, but I don't know what it might be.
(I could maybe grope in the direction of something by looking at terms like "homoromantic", as distinct from "homosexual", since the two don't always coincide - but I'm not at all sure that what I'd arrive at would be the right answer, and at the very least the former of those two, alone, is not what I think of when I encounter the word "gay".)
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For the sake of brevity (and not throwing out terms that might confuse others or not be widely accepted), I chose to use the phrase “asexual gay person” as a substitute for “homoromantic asexual person”.{1} I apologize for any confusion I caused by my decision, and I will try to be more specific about that sort of language from now on.
{1} I still believe a homoromantic asexual person would likely still be considered “gay” in casual/“everyday” terms, just as a heteromantic asexual person would likely be considered “straight”. Whether they choose to accept or deny such labels, for whatever reason, is their business.
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Anti-police "Hate Speech"
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'Highlighting our atrocities is hateful!'
It's 'hateful' to discus police beating up people attempting to vote, simply because their parents might be cops? Yeah, no, as attempts to justify a 'hate-speech lawsuit' that one is beyond pathetic.
If their parents were involved, then they deserve to have their abhorrent actions called out. If they weren't, then it's not talking about them. And if its 'hateful' to bring it up, how hateful is it to act like it didn't happen, for those who's parents were beat up?
This assumes it even happened anyway, the article talks about the director denying even that, noting that in a group of students in the three to six-year old range such a discussion would be near impossible to manage, so the truth of the matter would seem to be up in the air still.
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I tend to close the door when I have sex too. That would be normal, in my experience, and normal for my partners too. Does that mean I am “in the closet”?
Sex is a private thing for nearly everyone outside porn stars, isn’t it?
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Is your experience actually different, that is, are the overwhelming majority of gay people you now very focused on gay sex? Are the people you cite in your examples the norm or the exception?
Don’t have a heart attack, it is just a question. Are you brave enough to be honest and respond? Open and honest discussion often leads to good things.
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The fellow that really shocked me was the one that told me he had sex with more than 365 different men in one year. Such a thing had never entered my mind, until I heard it personally recounted from this fellow. As I remember, he was in his late 20’s, maybe early 30’s.
When I recounted his bragging to other gay people, I never heard anyone gay denounce him, they seemed to admire him, smirking in the process.
Maybe I have never recovered from the shock of his disclosure, and how far it deviated from my belief system about normal and healthy behavior, I don’t know, I do remember being shocked nearly beyond belief. What do you think your gay friends would think? Would they be shocked, or sympathetic?
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(hm, oh dear, I'm older than Kavanaugh)
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Unwanted sexual advances are inappropriate (at bare minimum) regardless of who is on either side of the “conversation”. What I take issue with is how you all but admit that if a straight man feels so threatened/disgusted/whatever by the mere idea of being macked on by a gay man, the straight man’s first instinct should be to commit an act of violence against that gay man. What gay person would ever be friends with you if they knew you believe a straight person should be able to hurt gay people for what could possibly be a harmless mistaken flirtation?
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If you genuinely do not understand the term “in the closet” in re: gay people, you have a severe case of ignorance, willful or not. (You also probably lack the gay friends you profess to have.)
If you are being a dumbshit about the term so you willingly look obtuse and cause people to get mad at you and respond more, you are acting in bad faith and you should fuck off back to Bible Study.
And by the by, gay people have the absolute right to live a public life and be openly gay. That includes the right to do in public what you might consider a sexual act if gay people did it but an innocent act if straight people did it (e.g., holding hands, kissing each other). If you cannot deal with that reality, that is your issue, not theirs.
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Logically, if we allow that insulting entire groups is OK, then it's OK for all such insults. By picking and choosing who you allow to be insulted, you invalidate logical arguments against the insults you dislike.
You aren't the ruler of the world who gets to decide which groups are OK to insult.
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In some cultures (like mine), we find sexual advances of men towards men really offensive, and violence can occur from either side at any time, because the interaction is so offensive to both parties.
What being “macked on” is, I think I am giving you good advice to say don’t try “macking” on anyone without expecting violent repercussions. Just don’t do it. It’s offensive.
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what I mean't by that last statement is that to accept that you (or someone else) gets to decide which group-based insults (or discrimination) are ok, you're actually supporting a "might makes right" philosophy.
And if you advocate for that, then you will just have to accept that if/when that "might" changes hands, your claim those that insults you dislike are wrong will also become invalid.
I believe that B.H. is saying that the root problem in all of this is that to allow broad-brushing entire groups, dehumanizing the members of those groups (or their associates/families) is wrong.
If you believe you can overcome one type of discrimination by allowing another, you're never going to be successful. Instead you merely advocate that discrimination is OK when someone in the right position of power says it's ok.
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Gay men are not more likely to hit a straight man for turning them down. Gay men are more likely to be hurt or even killed for flirting with a straight man. The fact that you condone—and possibly encourage—such violence against gay men says a lot about you. None of it is good. So please fuck off back to whatever anti-gay forum you came from and stay there. No one wants to hear your shit any more.
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Saying NO to sexual advances is OK. Saying it with some degree of violence is totally appropriate in some circumstances, for men or women, straight or gay. Everyone should be a little careful, that is a basic tenant of a healthy society. Sexual relationships are to be revered and not entered into lightly. That’s a good thing.
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Here's your study: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/cdc_nisvs_victimization_final-a.pdf
Gay men had the lowest lifetime prevalence of rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner. If heterosexual women have a higher rate of prevalence experiencing those behaviors than gay men, then gay men must be less violent.
Saying no to sexual advances is fine, but doing so with violence should always be a last resort. I get the impression that you think it's totally fine to punch a man in the balls if he offers to buy you a drink. Here's a clue: in that scenario you're the violent one, not the gay man. Now, obviously things like unwanted sexual advances may be different, but even a forced kiss or groping in a public setting is far more appropriately dealt with by pushing the aggressor back and shouting your disapproval loud enough to get attention. Put it this way: would it be acceptable to cunt-punt a woman who tried to kiss you at a bar? If your answer is no, then why is it different when dealing with another man?
Lastly, the gay men I've been friends with haven't been the super aggressive predators you're making them out to be. I'm straight but have been the designated driver for friends on their trips to the local gay bar. When other patrons would offer to buy me a drink I would just explain the situation and that would be the end of it. They're more interested in meeting fellow gay men than in trying to convert straight men. I never once felt threatened, and quite a few times got free appetizers or attaboys for being the DD. I'm secure enough in my sexuality not to feel attacked by a casual flirtation, and in a way it was even flattering, just like it's flattering when a woman does the same today even though I'm married. I'm secure enough in my relationship with my wife that I can turn down any advances without feeling attacked and it's nice to know that I still have the ability to attract other women's attention even though I'm off the market.
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I saw that someone on CNN said violence was OK if it was applied in a “just cause” like opposing free (hate) speech (ANTIFA). That kind of violence is OK, busting windows OK, setting fire to food carts OK. But defending yourself from someone who makes physical sexual advances on your person is uncalled for and unhealthy.
What a world.
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Both the insult to your manhood and the nickname for a female body part derive from pussycat, but for different reasons.
And if calling someone an animal is automatically a slur, Christians need to shape up on that whole "lamb of God" thing.
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About gay people showing physical affection in public, I don’t think a lot of physical affection in public is appropriate by anyone, gay or not. But I would not be more critical of a gay couple than a straight couple.
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What the hell?
When I read your study, it appeared that heterosexual men experienced less violence than homosexual men or women or bisexual men or women.
Your paper seems to indicate that gay and lesbian and bisexual individuals visit more violence on each other than straight people.
Was that your point?
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I find it hard to believe that there is any English-speaker past puberty (let alone one who claims acquaintance with some large number of homosexuals) who does not know that “the closet” is a generations-old metaphor for secrecy, and that “coming out of the closet” means revealing one's homosexuality.
It's so far from obscure that it was the basis of a gag in Mad magazine's parody of Three's Company (a television series, 1977–1984).
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I am not a lady, i have not asked for it, and I would do my level best to dissuade anyone who thinks otherwise.
What possible legitimate basis could one anonymous coward have to characterize another anonymous coward’s sexual preferences?
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(Hint: look up "tenant".)
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"Black people can act like white people anytime they want. Just drop the intentionally incorrect grammar, put a belt on to hold your pants up, tie your shoes, get a job and support a family. There. You’re white, in almost all respects. Talk white, work white, act white, you’re as white as any white, maybe whiter because you tried harder."
Wow, that's some A-grade racism you've got there, champ. Most of the black people I know dress decently, speak well, and are personally responsible. As are the northern and southern Asians. Meanwhile, many of the white people I know are irresponsible and dress and speak poorly.
So... what do we learn from this, kiddies? That's right, being respectable and personally responsible is not a race thing, it's a personal choice thing. It's not even an economic thing: people choose to either be responsible or irresponsible depending on the size of their imaginary entitlements.
Drop the racism, move away from the racism, and go and make friends outside your bubble. You might be surprised.
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Maybe you point could be made more clearly.
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You made a lot of assumptions about what I said. Let me clear them up for you.
My subjective opinions on who is and is not “allowed” to be insulted do not constitute objective fact, nor have I claimed as much. My opinions on what slurs are “okay” or “unacceptable” are also subjective, though I have history backing more than a few of those. I do not advocate for discrimination based on a person’s inherent traits (nor for protected designations such as religious beliefs that are a personal choice). I do not advocate in favor of insulting people, no matter how much I may do it myself.
What I advocate for in this line of discussion are these principles:
Discrmination based on what someone does is fine, because someone acting like an asshole is a universal facet of life.
A person who feels insulted over someone mocking their career/job or a general personal decision has every right to feel that way.
Anyone who feels insulted over mockery of their job, however, has less of a right to feel insulted than someone who is mocked for their skin color, sexual orientation, etc. (A cop can stop being a cop; a Black man cannot stop being a Black man.)
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Or more charitably, to obliquely point out the misspelling, in a possibly-humorous way.
But yes, to the extent that there was a joke involved, he was intended to be the butt of it.
(...and now I'm wondering if he'll manage to miss, and take offense at, that idiom as well.)
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I've said it, I've said it to a friend who became a cop. And it had nothing to do with his color, race, religion, sexual orientation, or anything other than him being a cop. And nothing else was said. The person I said it to wasnt affended, no one around me was offended. That was it.
People need to stop getting In to someone elses business, stop "getting offended" for someone else, and grow a pair.
I'm latin, Hispanic, mexican, what ever you want to call me. I've had people get "offended" for ke because of what someone else said, and that pisses me off. It's not for you to worry about. It doesn't bother me what someone else says. Their ignorance only hurts themselves for saying something and thinking it matters to me. And the people that get "offended for me" are even more so, butting into something that doesnt concern them.
Like some one calling me a "wet back" or "spick" or what ever, that's between me and who ever said it. Not some one who over heard it, over heard it between us to out of context or even in context, it doesnt concern you. Just like this girl calling a "fictional character" a "pig", that concerns no one but a cop who happens to over hear that, or an actual pig that doesnt want to be associated with a cop.
So, how about we look at the real problem and address teachers today, liberal minded teachers, who think they are the ones that are supposed to teacher our kids how to think. They're just supposed to provide facts, and that's it. Not their personal agenda, political views, or any thing else.
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That's one perspective, but there are others who believe that one reason such things remain an issue is because privileged bystanders don't say anything, which is taken as tacit approval.
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